Archive for March, 2014

Note to Christian Women: Don’t Rush Love, Part One

[Note: the following can ALSO apply to single Christian men as well, who are dating all the “wrong types” of women in their quest to “find THE one”. And if that’s you [single Christian male reading this], read on, and just switch the viewpoint as if I’m writing to single, Christian males dating all the wrong types of women, thus far. Thanks and I hope this helps!]

Today’s society places such great importance on love and relationships. So much in fact, that countless numbers of magazine and internet articles are inundated with “relationship advice” and the like. And as a woman is walking around in public (be at the grocery store, Walmart, the mall, the movie theater), more oftentimes than not, she will see COUNTLESS numbers of “happy little couples” walking around and probably wish so desperately that she were part of one herself. And then, if she’s Christian or church-going, she will oftentimes hear sermon after sermon on marriage and family, over and over again, which no doubt sends her the false message that says: “hey, God only values you if you are dating someone, engaged or married”, which can thus, likely make her feel SO ALONE in this world!

But one thing we know from the bible (specifically, near the very beginning of Genesis) is that God values relationships (specifically, those that lead to marriage). And many a single Christian woman will ask herself the fateful question: “if God cared SO MUCH about making sure that Adam wasn’t alone, then why does he seem to care so very little about MY being alone?” and it’s a question that resonates VERY, VERY deeply into the human woman’s soul. When, as a woman, one sees countless numbers of happy little couples walking around, it is easy for a woman to feel jealous or to feel as though something must be wrong with her if so and so is in a relationship but yet, she herself is not.

When that occurs, some women get tired and fed up of waiting, thinking something along the lines of “well, God is sure taking his sweet-heck of a time finding a suitable man/spouse for me, so I think I’m just gonna speed up the process a little bit”. So then what happens, as a result? Answer: They end up dating and/or marrying the wrong guy. They end up dating or settling for Mr. He’s-Not-A-True-Christian-But-I-Love-Him-Anyways, Mr. Maybe, Mr. Right Now, or Mr. Maybe-He-Loves-Me-But-I-Don’t-Know-For-Sure-And-Love-Him-Too-Much-To-Leave. And the results are DISASTROUS!

These women later usually end up being CHEATED ON by these wrong-for-them type boyfriends or husbands or vice versa. Bottom line is, SHE is not fulfilled due to the guy’s LACK of faith/no faith while HE is not fulfilled DUE to her faith. It’s a no-win situation, folks!

They then later end up breaking up or getting divorced and any children that are a product of such “un-evenly yoked” unions tend to suffer from LIFELONG SCARS brought on by the breakup/divorce (one of those lifelong scars may be that they don’t know what real love is or how to have or seek out a good/healthy relationship/marriage someday and will have a statistically higher chance of getting divorced (or having unfulfilling relationships) themselves someday and the pattern repeats itself, over and over again usually, which is tragic).

So what’s an illustrated example of when a woman goes for the wrong type of guy? Well, lets say a woman likes this guy that isn’t a Christian (and he can be atheist, Muslim, Hindu, Mormon, Pagan, Catholic, etc.) And this guy gots alot of good qualities, but he’s not Christian. So the woman thinks to herself: “well, I know he’s not Christian but he gots all these other good qualities….so perhaps it doesn’t matter that much that he’s not Christian…..perhaps I could later get him to convert to Christianity AFTER we get married……I mean….as long as he’s ok with MY being Christian, it will all turn out okay, right?” And usually what happens with that situation is that the guy NEVER CHANGES/NEVER CONVERTS and both the woman AND the guy in question are HIGHLY unfulfilled and bitterness/resentment/divorcement ensue!

OR….in OTHER cases……if the woman decides NOT to date anymore non-Christian guys in her life, the “guy” they’re interested in might even go so far as to try to make her feel BAD or like a “hateful, religious bigot” for refusing to date him since he’s not Christian/not interested in becoming Christian. So then what usually happens? The guy will oftentimes “pretend” like he’s Christian, just to get in a woman’s pants/etc……

OR…..the woman’ll maybe cave and decide she’d rather have more of HIM and less of Jesus in her life. And that’s tragic. Because when we put the “opinion” of others BEFORE the almighty opinion of God, we’ve done ourselves (and the Lord) a SERIOUS disservice! It’s like saying to the Lord, “I’m sorry, Lord….but your opinion on what constitutes a GOOD MAN and a GOOD RELATIONSHIP’s not important enough to me. MY opinion is FAR more superior than YOURS Lord, so just DEAL WITH IT!” 

Another thing a single Christian woman might experience is when a non-Christian or wayward Christian woman seems to have more luck in love and relationships than SHE herself does. So then she will likely start to doubt and question God as in, “Hey there! Wait a minute, I’m a Christian, she’s not…..or a wayward one at best, so why does SHE have a boyfriend and/or husband, and I don’t?” It might seem to her that God is somehow favoring the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman and NOT her (the Christian woman) since God had somehow allowed the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman to have a boyfriend/husband before her. But ya know what, ladies? The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. And you don’t know what goes on inside that relationship or that marriage.

Maybe her boyfriend/husband doesn’t pay any attention to her and is a real jerk to her (behind closed doors). Maybe he never gets anything for her on her birthday, wedding anniversary, etc. or takes her for granted. Or maybe it was one of those “starter marriages” without deep, specific meaning. OR……if her husband DOES treat her really, really good, maybe that is the Lord’s way of trying to secretly draw HER (the “said” non-Christian woman/wayward Christian woman) TO him (the great Lord above) and THAT could never be a bad thing, right? 😉

And besides, if it could happen for the non-Christian woman, then it could MOST CERTAINLY happen for the Christian woman someday, right? 🙂 Sometimes it just takes the Lord awhile to create the most perfect combination in a man.

But for the Christian woman, it’s much better if she waits for the RIGHT MAN (as in, BIBLICAL CHRISTIAN MAN) then wasting all her time dating all the “wrong guys”. That’s not to say that she can’t learn from relationships with non-Christian men and even love and value the man VERY highly but IF the single Christian woman wants to align herself with the TRUE 100% will of God, then the guy she dates MUST be a biblical-based Christian. No exceptions.

And, hey, LOOK….I know and realize that that’s a VERY hard thing for women these days to do, especially since biblically-based Christian men these days are SO few and far between. And then there’s the popular phenomena with “Christian dating sites”. A Christian lady might think it’s the way to go. But ladies, be careful. There’s many male “creepers” out there who are just looking for some “good Christian virgins to be with”, etc. That’s why you ladies out there should be EVER so careful about whom you trust and correspond with online.

In fact, many more “creepers” themselves are starting to go to Christian dating sites to pick their “victims”. Don’t be ONE of them, ladies! Be smart. Never meet one of a guy off a Christian dating site alone. NEVER give out your address or phone number right away. Pray to Jesus about Jesus’s will. And if this guy doesn’t align with Jesus’s will for your life, you better step up and pay attention, ladies!  

That being said, what sorts of traits should a single Christian woman look for in a man? Lets example some biblical principles……

1. Is the guy a Christian? And by Christian, I DON’T mean Catholic, Mormon, Jehovah’s Witness, etc.! I mean, is he a TRUE biblical Christian (Jewish roots Christian is EVEN BETTER)?

2. If he’s a Christian, how is his relationship with the Lord? Does he read the bible and pray often? Does he have a conversion story? Is he thankful for all that the Lord has given him?

3. How does he treat YOU and make YOU feel? Is he patient, considerable, respectful of your time? Does he call or text you when he’s going to be late meeting you? Does he comfort you when you’re sad? Is he happy for you when you are successful? Does he encourage you when you need encouragement or reassurance?

4. Do his values align with YOUR values? For example, if you want kids someday, does he want kids as well? And if you don’t want kids someday, does he also not want kids someday? Or if he does want kids, is he willing to forgo having them to make you happy?

5. Is he willing to save sex until marriage? This one is important. If he is, hold onto that man for dear life and don’t let go, women! 😉

6. Is he willing to do bible study with you each week and/or go to couples counseling with you if your relationship or marriage hits a rough patch?

7. Is he willing to COMMUNICATE and COMPROMISE with you, in order to make your relationship work? This one’s also important. For if a man isn’t willing to communicate or compromise with you early on in the relationship, what good would that guy be in a marriage?

On the other hand……..here are some red flags that a single Christian woman should NOT tolerate in a spouse/dating partner……..

1. He is verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or physically abusive…….

2. He constantly blames YOU for all the problems in the relationship and WILL NOT take the blame for what HE does wrong……..

3. He is hypercritical or super-super religious as in, he constantly criticizes your cooking/etc. or demands you have long hair and wear long skirts all the time…….

4. He lies to you or cheats on you……

5. He pays child support on other children and doesn’t tell you………

6. He/she is a mama’s boy and expects you to do EVERYTHING for him and does practically NOTHING for you in return……

7. He never takes you out on dates, never tells you he loves you, never does things to show he cares……

8. He doesn’t take the Lord OR you seriously and promises to change bad habits but then never does……….

9. He laughs at your emotional pain on certain things and claims you are being “too sensitive”…..

10. He/she tells you how “hot” other women are…..

11. He blows you off, doesn’t call or text back when he says he will and makes you feel really, really bad about yourself…….

12. He BELITTLES your “Christian religion” (this is HUGE, LADIES! Probably one of THE biggest red flags out there!)

13. He “borrows money” from you all the time and never pays you back or expects YOU to pay for things all the time! 

14. He has an alcohol or drug problem

15). Etc. Etc. 

Sometimes, for all the singles out there, it’s VERY, VERY easy to grow disillusioned and want to date the next person that comes along that we “think” we feel a total emotional/physical attraction type connection with. But we all MUST remember: Jesus Christ knows best. It might “seem” at times that he’s forgotten about all the single Christians down here on this Earth but trust me, he has NOT forgotten about all the single people out there! 

[“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” – [Matthew 6:33] andBehold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?” – [Matthew 6:26] 

For example, if we had to be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, we all have an extensive list of what we’d ideally want in the perfect mate, right? Like, some of us might want an extremely “nerdy” Christian, while others of us might desire a more social, outspoken Christian. Basically, we all got our different types that we like.

And hey, if we were to all be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, how many times have us single souls (both males and females out there) prayed to the Lord something along the following: “Lord, if you could send a mate into my life that’s _______, Christian, _____ and _______[personality-wise], is into _______ and ________ [hobbies], is ______ feet tall, has ________ colored eyes and _____ hair and speaks with a _____ accent, I’d really, really appreciate it”???? haha 😉 Well, lets face it, that’s quite a tall order that the Lord must then fill. And it could take awhile before he finds JUST the right combination in a person and gets that person to be at the right place at the right time, etc.

So single Christians out there, ya’ll got TWO choices: to wait on the good Lord above to send the RIGHT person into your lives (no matter how long it takes) and be TRULY blessed in life and in love when it DOES happen for ya OR not wait on the Lord, find a “mate” prematurely and then get your heart broken immediately afterwards because you tried to go on your OWN timing instead of the Lord’s timing. The choice is up to you, singles! But don’t say I didn’t warn you! 😉 

How does Jesus Christ communicate with people?

Many Christians (and even those who are non-Christian or non-religious) may be wondering how Jesus Christ communicates with people, rather or not Jesus Christ ever tries to communicate with non-Christians, and exactly WHAT it is that people mean when they hear someone say “God spoke to me today” or “God told me to do/not do such and such”.

Many people might be wondering the question “did that person actually hear God’s AUDIBLE voice? Are they psychologically CRAZY? What is the DEAL, here?”

And the simple answer is THIS: Jesus Christ communicates in a NUMBER of ways to people. He can speak to people audibly during near-death experiences, for instance. (Although I’ve never personally heard of a case where he AUDIBLY spoke to someone in the MODERN DAY outside of a dream or near-death experience). He can also speak through dreams and visions (as Job 33: 14-18 in the Old Testament and the “dreams” of other Old Testament prophets/certain people attest to). And most importantly, he can speak to someone IN SPIRIT…..either through his divine words in the bible and/or through means of the Holy Spirit. And when he speaks through means of the Holy Spirit, it’s not so much an AUDIBLE out-loud voice so much as it is an “inner voice of reason”.

And you can tell it’s the Holy Spirit of God when what your gut says ALIGNS itself with what the BIBLE says……things such as, “you need to spend more time with your family” (a value that’s highly favored in the bible), “you need to spend more time reading the bible each week”, “you need to re-examine and re-strengthen your faith”, or “you should go witness to your atheist friend about me today” or “you should go donate your last $5 to that homeless man over there so he can buy something to eat today” or the like. It will also tell you things like “Jesus Christ is Lord” or “Yeshua” (Jesus’s Hebrew name).   

For example: a person could be struggling with something in their lives (like, forgiving someone who has hurt them, overcoming lust or greed, fixing a broken marriage, dealing with a death in the family, etc.) And then, they will either have a dream or vision where Jesus tells them how to overcome the situation they’re struggling with or they’ll be prompted to look up a certain bible passage or to go read a certain Christian blog or listen to a certain Christian radio or tv program that covers the exact topic in question OR a friend, acquaintance or family member of the person with knowledge of that subject will oftentimes call or email the person out of the blue (as if by a miracle), which then opens the person to asking the friend the best way to deal with said topic/struggle. I’ve had that happen to me MANY times!

And if a person is non-Christian or a follower of ANOTHER religion besides true, biblical-based (Jewish-roots) Christianity, Jesus Christ will try to communicate with that individual in a certain set of ways. He’ll either try to speak to that person through a street preacher, a youtube video, an evangelist, an online message board, a televangelist, a Christian friend or family member, a blog, a news article about a miracle that happened, a near-death experience, a dream, a vision, a miracle, a radio broadcast, a book, a movie, the bible, etc. He has an INFINITE number of ways to try to communicate with the non-believer or with followers of a religion that is not COMPLETELY biblically-based (be it Satanism, atheism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Catholicism, Mormonism, Islam, Hinduism, etc.)

In fact, MANY non-Christian people and/or followers of other religions have reported having dreams and visions of Jesus Christ. It would seem these days that Jesus Christ Almighty is trying to get through to as many people as possible before the day of reckoning. And once that day comes, it will be too late for people to change their minds. Their eternal fate will be sealed and there will be NO.WAY.OUT. FOREVER. Revelation 20:15 gives a VERY CLEAR description of what happens to ALL those who disregard Jesus Christ and his sacrifice on the cross for mankind’s sins: “And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire”.

However, there are ALSO cases where Satan will appear to people in visions and dreams DISGUISED as Jesus Christ sometimes, in order to try to fool people. So how can people tell the difference, you may ask? Well, the answer is simple. First of all, how do you FEEL when you very first encounter Jesus Christ in your visions or dreams? Do you feel content, restful, at peace, happy? Or do you feel uneasy, unsure, full of anxiety, etc? Secondly, do the words of “Jesus Christ” in your visions or dreams line up with the bible? Like, if a form of Jesus Christ appears in your dream and tells you “you should spend more time with your family”, it is most likely the good Lord himself speaking since the bible highly values marriage and family.

BUT…….if the “Jesus Christ” in your dream tells you to do something CONTRARY to the bible such as “you don’t have to read the bible every week to have strong faith” or “you really don’t have to try to make up with your friend that you had a falling out with, that’s not important to me right now” or “it’s okay if you don’t celebrate the Sabbath every week or celebrate it on the CORRECT time-frame (Friday sundown to Saturday sundown)”, etc. or makes you feel UNEASY or NERVOUS, then it is most definitely NOT the Jesus of the bible speaking to you in the dream!

But beware…….Satan can get so tricky sometimes as to appear to someone in a vision or dream in the form of Jesus Christ, say something that “SEEMS” to align with the bible, and then quickly add in a little tidbit that goes AGAINST the bible once he has the dreamer convinced that he is Jesus Christ and NOT himself!

As in: “So….I’ve been noticing you’ve been reading the bible alot lately……..good job…….I’m impressed……….now, I’d like you to work on THIS other area in your life……instead of reading the bible from now on, I want you to go out and focus on yourself for awhile……..you’ve been working so hard lately for my great, heavenly name…….and I want and need for you to take a break and relax for awhile, trust me, you need it. And then after a time, you can come back and be all “refreshed” in my “great heavenly name'”  [Note: The Lord Jesus Christ Almighty “never takes a vacation” from being God, so why should WE ever “take a vacation” from being his servant? Answer: we shouldn’t!]

So be VERY, VERY careful when trying to interpret/process spiritual visions and dreams!!!!!!!

And this isn’t a GAME, folks! This is FOR REAL! There is a SPIRITUAL WAR going on out there in today’s world, a war for your very SOUL! And believe me, your SOUL is the single most precious thing that you have, more valuable than ANY money, gold, possessions, friends or fame.  Cause what you say, do and believe in THIS world will determine where your SOUL (the single most precious possession that you have) will go for ETERNITY!

For our very own thoughts, deeds and actions someday will be judged accordingly. Those who put their faith, love and trust into Jesus Christ and follow all his commandments in the bible to the best of their ability shall enter into eternal life. But those who do NOT put their faith, love and trust into Jesus Christ and follow all his commandments in the bible to the best of their ability shall enter into eternal condemnation.

There is one way and ONLY one way and that way is through Jesus Christ. There are ONLY two paths in the world: the path of light, which leads to truth which is Jesus Christ and the path of darkness (all other religions other than biblically-based Christianity, including atheism) that lead to eternal condemnation. So essentially, the TWO choices are FOR Christ or AGAINST Christ. What side are YOU on?

Satan at the Grammy’s: Jesus is Out & Darkness is “In”

Not that Jesus was ever truly a part of the Grammy’s, anyways………remember the 2nd commandment that “thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image”.

But in general, it seems that the Grammy Awards are getting bolder and bolder each year. They keep getting more and more dark and Satanic. So what does that say about us, as a culture? And as a nation?

It simply means that more and more people are opening up their hearts, souls and minds to blatant Satanism. But Satanism isn’t easily recognized for what it really is, at first. It tries to make itself seem “good”, even “family-friendly” and “harmless white magic” at first glance. Take the ever-so-popular Harry Potter series, for example. It pretty much presents witchcraft as “harmless”, “cool”, even “FUN”! Or the movies The Craft and Practical Magic, for example.

I’m very embarrassed and ashamed to admit this but the movie The Craft actually got me curious about witchcraft when I was about 19 years old or so. And before I knew it, I had started to research more about Wiccan online, played with a ouji board once or twice and was actually thinking of becoming a certified Wiccan practitioner who practiced “harmless white magic” such as “innocent love spells” and the like. I thought there was no harm in it since I WASN’T going to be doing any “dark magic” to hurt people, only “white magic” to “heal” or “help people”.

In short, I was going to SUPPLEMENT “White Magic” with my Christian beliefs and still have my faith and belief in Jesus Christ but just have an extra added boast to my relationships through “White Magic” spells……….or so I THOUGHT……..But what made me FINALLY realize that ALL magic is SATANIC (EVEN White Magic) was this: a person was not considered GRADUATED from the Wiccan certification program until a person stripped down naked and walked down the steps in front of a building……..ON CAMERA…….Basically, they wanted a person to surrender their BODY and SOUL to become a Wiccan “practitioner”. And something about that just didn’t sit right by me. I IMMEDIATELY clicked off that website and NEVER LOOKED BACK AGAIN!

But see, that’s the SAD thing. People think that Ouji boards and the like are JUST A GAME! But I’m living proof that Ouji boards and the study of Wicca is NOT A GAME!!!!! For I had had some VERY bad spiritual experiences within the 19-21 years old time-frame, due to my dabbling in Ouji boards and study of “White Magic”. I had tried to kill myself 7 times within that time-frame. I became a binge-drinking alcoholic. I got kicked out of university. My boyfriend at the time left me for another woman. My bestfriend Sarah almost stopped being friends with me due to my crazy, erratic behavior. Basically, 19-21 was a VERY, VERY BAD time for me. I also had these BAD spiritual experiences in which a dark presence would hover over me when I went to sleep at night and also when I woke up every morning. One time, this dark presence HELD ME DOWN on the bed and would NOT let me get up out of bed!!!!

I had to pray in the name of Jesus Christ to make the dark presence (likely, the devil himself) go away!!!!!!! But basically, Jesus Christ explained it all to me in a dream. He said to me: “Dawn, when you dabbled with Ouji boards and ‘White Magic’, you actually invited demon spirits to come into your home and infect your mind with thoughts of severe depression/wanting to kill yourself/binge-drinking alcoholism/etc. But BECAUSE you decided to put away all Magic for good and THREW AWAY your Ouji board and REPENTED to me, the evil spirits have now gone and you’re safe now, in my great Heavenly name. But don’t EVER turn to magic or Ouji boards ever, ever again or the demon spirits will be 10 times worse than they were this time”.

But going back to the subject of the post…….when I see all these kids at libraries or the mall or bookstores ranting and raving about the Harry Potter book series or talking about how good the Harry Potter movies are, I just want to cry and cry and cry, until I can cry no more. Because these poor young children have NO IDEA of the “eternal condemnation” that they’re heading for, if they continue on the path of darkness. But that’s just what the problem is, in today’s world. Witchcraft in today’s popular culture is seen as “normal”, “acceptable”, “cool”, “harmless”, “fun”, and even “family-friendly” (as the end of the movie “Practical Magic” portrays). Therefore, these poor young children have NO IDEA that Harry Potter represents DARKNESS (and consequently, the Lord’s WRATH!) I just absolutely HATE the way in which the author of the Harry Potter series makes witchcraft seem so “cuddly” when it is anything BUT cuddly! It is SOUL DAMNING!!!!!!!!!!

When I was a young kid back in the 80s’, parents would’ve been UP IN ARMS if there was a popular book series about Witchcraft or if there was a pro-homosexual curriculum, if “one nation under God” was taken out of the pledge of Allegiance or if they knew of a young girls dance team (ages 6-10) where their dance coach made them dress AND dance like strippers on NATIONAL LIVE TV! It just makes me SO sad and depressed, sometimes. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO THIS COUNTRY?????????????? ;( WHAT IS HAPPENING TO TODAY’S CHILDREN??????????? Are they all going to grow up to be devil-worshiping, homosexual, murdering, sodomizing monsters? (The ones that are NOT raised in a true Christian home, that is?) It’s pretty scary to think about……

I’ve also noticed at Hastings around the year 2000 or so that 2-3 long aisle shelves used to be devoted to Christianity years ago and that the New Age section was only one small little shelf area. But NOW, in the year 2014, the New Age section of the bookstore part of Hastings has just EXPLODED with 2-3 long aisle shelves devoted to it, while only 1-2 half aisle shelves are devoted to Christianity. And the people in the store that passed by and saw me in the “Christian” section of the bookstore part of Hastings just looked at me, pointed, scoffed and SNICKERED (which is definitely a sign of the times!) I was the ONLY person in the “Christian” aisle. Several years ago, there used to be atleast 3-10 other people at one time in the Christian section, with next to NOBODY in the New Age section of the store. But now guess what? Now EVERYBODY and their grandmother wants to go to the NEW AGE section of the store and totally forsake the Christian section, it seems like. How sad. What is this world coming to? ;(