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Anger Solves NOTHING!

Anger. It’s an emotion we’ve ALL felt from time to time. The person in front of us at the checkout is taking too long. Someone cuts us off in traffic. Someone at work is micro-managing us. A friend, family member or complete stranger says something insensitive to us. We find that there was a mistake on our tax refund and/or that we’ve been overcharged on one or more of our bills. We’re driving a long distance and one of the tires suddenly has a blowout. The cat hops up on the cabinet (while we got our back turned for just THREE seconds) and helps him/herself to a piece of “sandwich” we’re in the process of making for lunch.

WHATEVER the situation, anger solves NOTHING! Anger will NOT, by any means:

  1. Make the person taking F-O-R-E-V-E-R at the checkout line in front of us suddenly speed up in a jiffy
  2. Make the person who cut us off in traffic UN-CUT us off in traffic or magically make them look over at us and mouth the words: I’m sorry
  3. Make the coworker who’s micro-managing us suddenly STOP, smile and say Sorry….I guess I AM micro-managing you, my apologies, didn’t mean to
  4. Make the friend, family member or complete stranger IMMEDIATELY apologize for their actions and ask for forgiveness
  5. Make the tax refund mistake go away or make the numbers magically change to the correct amount before our very eyes
  6. Make the tire IMMEDIATELY “re-correct” itself so we can keep on driving
  7. Make the cat UN-EAT the bite of sandwich and meow that they’re “sorry” (well….they might possibly meow that they’re sorry, but that’s besides the point………)

It’s pretty much a given that EVERY single human being on the planet is going to experience frustration and ANGER at SOME point in their existence. That’s a given. But it’s how we DEAL with that anger that matters.

Lets say you’re in a work situation. Your coworker Steve is micro-managing you to the HILT! No…..put that April file over here with the February files, that way, we can keep better track of it. So then you do and not 30 seconds later, he “barks” at you AGAIN: No….don’t put it at the BOTTOM of the pile, put it at the TOP of the pile of February documents (even if you’re sitting there questioning like, WHAT?? That makes no sense!!! The TOP of the pile???? Where the file might possibly not be found or be confused with the February or January files? What the HECK???”

And then, just to test your buttons of patience EVEN FURTHER (or so it seems), good-ole “Steve-O” comes at you YET AGAIN: “Put all your most current May and April 2017 folders in the TOP DRAWERS, we NEVER put them in the BOTTOM DRAWERS that are closest within reach, YOU KNOW THAT!

And it’s usually at THIS point in time that our fragile human minds want to scream EXPLETIVES at “Steve-O” and GIVE HIM A PIECE OF OUR MIND! (Which, ironically enough, is likely what Steve-O wants, in the first place. So why give him the satisfaction?)

But folks, we got to realize something, here. Whenever there’s something that “testing our patience to the limits“, it’s because of 2 reasons:

A). Satan and his demons are trying EVER-SO-HARD to BREAK US…….to GET us to FEEL angry, to GET us to FEEL resentful, to GET us to CUSS UP A STORM, SNAP, and/or possibly belittle others in the process!

B). Jesus is “using” the experience to TEACH us “patience”, as odd as that may sound.

Now, there’s TWO types of anger mentioned in the bible. There is what’s called RIGHTEOUS ANGER (Jesus over-turning the money changers’ tables in The Temple) and UNRIGHTEOUS ANGER (Cain’s anger over Abel, Esau’s anger towards Jacob, Saul pursuing David, Moses killing the Egyptian that was harassing a Hebrew slave, Herod’s anger with the 3 Wisemen, etc.)

Now, we can all “claim” that OUR ANGER towards the “sinful behaviors of others” is classified as “righteous anger”. But when’s the last time we honestly got “righteously angry” over the sinful behavior(s) of OURSELVES?

That’s PRECISELY the EXACT issue that Jesus is discussing in Matthew 7: 3-5 which states: “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye

In other words, we can’t fully “call out/rebuke” the unrighteousness in OTHERS until we first “call out/rebuke” the unrighteousness in OURSELVES………Because Romans 3:23 says: “For ALL have sinned, and come short of the glory of God”. That means that NOBODY is perfect. NONE. None on the ENTIRE EARTH, past, future or present.

The ONLY being that is WITHOUT sin is ofcourse, JESUS CHRIST ALMIGHTY. While he lived on the Earth, he was BLAMELESS and WITHOUT SIN. That’s WHY he was a suitable sacrifice unto God to “take away the PENALTY of the sins of the world/mankind”. Because only one who is completely WITHOUT SIN can be a suitable enough sacrifice to TAKE AWAY THE PENALTY OF ALL SIN (in God’s eyes), if that makes any sense?

Now, lets look at the 7 above “anger-inducing cases” and see what happens when those people DON’T sinfully ACT on their anger:

  1. The person getting “irritated” at person in front of them in line sighs, takes a deep breath, patiently waits and then it’s THEIR turn. Life goes on.
  2. The person was cut off in traffic realizes that there’s a possibility that the person who cut them off did so “accidentally” and doesn’t fret about it. 
  3. The person being micro-managed at work stops, takes a deep breath and realizes that the micro-manager is either highly stressed themselves or only trying to be helpful and doesn’t fret about it.
  4. The person who an insensitive thing was said to rationally realizes that the person probably didn’t even realize what was said was insensitive and just rolls with it. Life goes on.
  5. The person who sees a mistake on their tax refund sighs, takes a deep breath and then calmly calls the IRS phone number to let them know what’s going on. They know eventually they’ll get the check for the correct amount and don’t fret about it.
  6. The person who had a tire blow-out will eventually fix it themselves or stay calm, figuring that help will soon be on the way.
  7. The person who had their kitty eat part of their sandwich LAUGHS about it, instead of gets mad about it, then makes themselves another sandwich cause hey, it’s not the end of the world, right?

Now, we’ve SEEN cases in the bible where people ACTED IMMEDIATELY on their anger 

  1. Cain killing Abel
  2. Esau plotting to kill Jacob
  3. Saul plotting to kill David
  4. Herod killing all boys, aged 2 and under
  5. Moses killing the Egyptian, who was “being brutal” towards the Israelite slave worker
  6. Moses SMASHING the clay tablets of stone with God’s law on them (upon seeing the disobedient children of Israel)
  7. Balaam beating his donkey for what HE thought was “weird behavior”
  8. Jezebel plotting to kill Elijah
  9. Haman being FURIOUS over Mordecai not bowing down to him and giving him obeisance
  10. Jonah got mad at God for NOT destroying the city of Nineveh (after his prophesying) AND for making him preach there in the first place?
  11. ETC.

Just like we can see cases where anger was likely HELD IN……..(and not acted upon):

  1. Abraham was likely secretly resentful/angry of Sarah demanding Hagar & Ishmael’s “banishment” since it was Sarah’s idea in the FIRST place for Abraham to marry Hagar and have children by her.
  2. When Jacob deceived Esau out of his birthright and out of his “patriarchal blessing”, Isaac was likely “silently angry” with both his sons (Esau, for being so “careless” about his birthright/blessing and with Jacob for having deceived Esau AND HIM).
  3. Jacob was likely VERY ANGRY (on the inside) with Laban for deceiving him into marrying Leah, instead of Rachel
  4.  Leah was likely resentful/angry towards her father for making her marry a man, Jacob, who clearly did NOT love HER, the way that Jacob loved Rachel, her younger sister), with Jacob (for loving Rachel more than her, and spending the MAJORITY of his nights with Rachel) AND with Rachel, for “being the favorite” of Jacob, etc.
  5. Jacob was likely resentful/angry (or at the VERY least, highly “annoyed”) with Leah for “buying a night with him with her son Reuben’s mandrakes”
  6. Old Testament Joseph was likely secretly angry with his brothers for selling him off as a slave, etc.
  7. Jacob (as well as Benjamin?) were likely secretly angry with all the other sons, after “initially” discovering the truth about Joseph (that he was initially “sold as a slave in Egypt”)
  8. Shem & Japheth were likely secretly angry with their brother Ham, for acting so foolishly and dishonorable with their “drunken” father, Noah
  9. New Testament Joseph likely felt HURT, BETRAYED, AND secretly angry/disappointed with his espoused, Mary, for what HE must’ve thought was her “going out on him”, BEFORE discovering that she was “immaculately pregnant with the Messiah, Jesus Christ”
  10. Mary’s own parents were likely secretly angry with her for what THEY thought was her “dishonorable behavior” before THEY knew she was “miraculously pregnant with the Messiah”
  11. ETC.

It’s funny how many Christians today sort’ve hold alot of the biblical characters up on a pedestal and act as though they never “thought” or “did” anything wrong. But folks, ALL biblical characters (save for Jesus Christ himself) were FAR FROM PERFECT. And many of them (just like many of us do, TODAY) got ANGRY and IMMEDIATELY ACTED UPON THAT ANGER!

As for all the bible characters that seemed to “hold it in”, for every single time they were able to be patient and hold their anger IN, there was likely a counter time in their lives when they did NOT hold their anger in and acted more like the “insta-charge angerers” list up above.

Now think back to the last time you got angry about something…….TRULY ANGRY. Did it solve anything? Did it make the situation better? Or did it just make things worse? How did it impact the others around you? (And how did it affect your children, spouse, coworkers and even PETS?) Did it turn out to be a worthwhile experience? Did it make you feel happy and fulfilled at all? Did you feel as though the anger was “worth it?” Did you feel as though it pleased Jesus Christ at all?

Because the truth is, anger solves NOTHING and takes away EVERYTHING! It takes away your mind, heart, sanity and spirit! And if left PERPETUALLY UNCHECKED, anger can be the catalyst for you losing your own very SOUL! Anger causes people to do MANY, MANY unrighteous and harmful things (both to themselves and to others). Anger causes hate and violence, rape and murder, ruined relationships and marriages, all sorts of sin and crime. It’s not worth it.

The next time you feel angry (about ANYTHING or ANYONE), just take a deep breath, relax, take ANOTHER deep breath and IMMEDIATELY re-asses the situation. And ask yourself, “is it worth it?”

Anger won’t repair your relationship or marriage……..won’t make things better for you at home or work……..won’t make you a better son/daughter, friend, coworker, spouse, niece/nephew, grandson/granddaughter, etc.

Anger (in and of itself) will help destroy everything you’ve ever worked for. Don’t let it win. Don’t let Satan and his demons win. Remember that WHEN the Old Testament characters unleashed their anger, unchecked, they were PUNISHED for it by God! However…..whenever they held their anger in and did NOT act on it, they were BLESSED FOR IT, BY GOD!

Now, that doesn’t mean that it’s not alright to feel angry from time to time, as anger is a normal, human emotion. It’s just what we DO with that anger that counts. Ephesians 4: 26-27 says: “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil”. So, in other words, when we let anger stew and come out full strength, the bible says we are “giving place to the devil”, meaning, we’re giving him leeway in our lives!  

I want to share my own personal experience here with anger and what all it’s done (or hasn’t done) for me. I’m usually a patient person and it takes alot to get me angry. But when my patience is tested to the hilt, I don’t tend to get just a “little” angry……Without prayer and intercession by the Lord Jesus, I tend (as a whole) to get REALLY ANGRY! And all the times I got REALLY ANGRY in my life, it did absolutely NOTHING for me. In fact, it has DESTROYED close relationships I’ve had in my life! It has taken so much FROM ME and has done absolutely nothing FOR me!

Anger robs the soul of LIFE! It really does. You can even spend your whole entire LIFE being mad at someone (or at God, even). Only to later find that it SOLVES NO PURPOSE! People that were estranged from parents/friends/relatives, for example, and hated them for YEARS? When they DO finally make up with them and start speaking to them again, they’re oftentimes GRIEVED about all that WASTED TIME that they COULD’VE SPENT together, making amends and letting bygones be bygones.

And all the times in my life when I just let my anger go, did NOT act on it, but prayed to the Lord Jesus Christ about it and trusted JESUS with it? Miraculous things would start to happen…….Things at work and home would start to run much smoother……..things that made me so angry before no longer seemed like such a big deal, anymore……the grass & trees looked greener, the sun looked brighter, the singing birds sounded more beautiful, people were nicer, plus I was FAR more content & happier……happier than I’ve ever been, actually…….

So if you’re angry about someTHING or someONE, I want you to ask yourself if it’s worth it. Is it worth all that LOST TIME that you COULD be spending making amends with that person/those people? It says in the bible that we must forgive others if we ourselves want to be forgiven. So what does that entail, one might ask? Well, for one, it means LETTING GO OF ANGER. I know that’s hard to do. I know it’s easier said than done. (Been there, done that, I KNOW how it feels). But if we want to move FORWARD (both, in our spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ AND with each other), then we MUST let go of our resentments/ANGER (anger towards God/Jesus, towards other people, & towards ourselves, etc.)

Even SELF-ANGER (anger at self) is DESTRUCTIVE and serves no purpose. For how can we faithfully serve God/Jesus is we’re too busy condemning ourselves to oblivion? Who CARES about what sin we did 10 years ago, 20 years ago, 2 years ago or 2 months ago? Does that REALLY hold any true bearing for what we’re doing for the Lord Jesus Christ in the HERE and the NOW?

The anti-thesis of anger is PATIENCE…..humbled PATIENCE. Jesus Christ puts us in “long lines”, etc. at the bank or grocery store, etc. to teach us PATIENCE. Jesus puts us in EVERY “patience-testing situation” to teach us PATIENCE. In fact, did you know that Satan the Devil gets ANGRY whenever WE are PATIENT? It’s true. And whenever WE get ANGRY and ACT ON IT, Satan’s happy as a lark! That’s WHY we should never let Satan win in the “war on anger”.

If you or someone you know is currently struggling with the perpetual problem of ANGER, I would HIGHLY encourage you to pray to the Lord Jesus Christ about it, HUMBLE YOURSELVES before Jesus, give your whole LIFE to him, and then, just sit back and watch all the miraculous things he’ll do in your life, when you CONQUER YOUR UNRIGHTEOUS ANGER IN JESUS’S NAME! 😉

Plus, here’s another thing you can try. The very next time you feel your anger rising, immediately shout within your spirit: “PRAISE JESUS! FOR BY HIS HEAVENLY NAME, I WILL LEARN PATIENCE & ENDURANCE!” And believe me folks, IT WORKS! It’s helped to calm me down in almost EVERY situation that’s made me immediately mad! However, when I DIDN’T do that….my anger became more apparent. So just goes to show ya.

And yes, though I DO still struggle with anger in my life from time to time (especially in the work setting), I’m getting much, much better these days at conquering it in Jesus’s name! And I pray that all of you will continue to do the same! 😉

“I can do ALL things through Christ, who strengthens me” – Philippians 4:13

Be DOERS Of The Word And NOT Just Hearers, ONLY!

Believe me, this goes just as much for ME as for ANYONE, here!

We can know every word of scripture there is to know………but if we don’t DIRECTLY APPLY what we know about the Word of God to our LIVES, then the Word of God has NO true *root* in us; in our mind, heart, body or SOUL!

James 1: 19-25 in the New Testament states: Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls. But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. 

For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed” 

In other words, James 1:19-25’s telling us not just to READ about the Word of God but to APPLY the Word of God DIRECTLY to our lives!

The Written Word of God (The Bible) tells us to do MANY things! For example, we are to:

  • Help those less fortunate than us. When you pass by a homeless person (rather or not they have a sign asking for money/food), do you actively GIVE them a meal or money for some food, for instance?
  • Preach the gospel of Salvation/Jesus Christ to others. Are you actively telling others about Jesus Christ/Almighty Yeshua and how he’s the ONLY way to Salvation, in some way, shape or form? Be it a blog, ministry, Youtube videos, in person testimony, etc.? 
  • Forgive those who’ve hurt us. Have you forgiven all the people who’ve hurt you? If not, have you PRAYED to be ABLE to forgive them? The bible says that if WE don’t forgive OTHERS for things they’ve done against US, that the Lord also won’t forgive OUR “sins/trespasses” against HIM/ALMIGHTY GOD!
  • Get full-water immersion baptized and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. As soon as we truly BELIEVE in Jesus Christ and his gospel, we should desire to get full-water-immersion baptized in his name and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit! 
  • Have no idols or graven images! Have you gotten rid of that Buddha or Krishna statue? That golden “trophy”? The dream catcher? Carved images? Hung paintings of this or that on the wall? Statues (EVEN IF and *ESPECIALLY IF* they’re *Catholic saints/DEMONS*?) Images of dragons, Darth Vader, Harry Potter characters, etc? 
  • Trust in the Lord Jesus Christ AND his words! Have you TRULY trusted Jesus Christ with your LIFE? Would you TRULY trust Jesus Christ to get you through THE MOST difficult situations in your life such as witnessing to homosexuals, knowing exactly what to do if and when someone points a gun at your head, etc.? And do you trust that the bible is 100% sure and that everything will come to pass as the Lord SAYS it will come to pass?
  • Love our neighbor as ourselves. Have you hated anyone recently? If so, you haven’t been truly applying the written Word of God to your life! 
  • ETC. ETC., YOU GET THE POINT!

And then, Matthew 25: 14-3o, we get the Parable of the Faith Servant Vs. Disobedient Servant and it goes like THIS:

For the kingdom of heaven is as a man travelling into a far country, who called his own servants, and delivered unto them his goods. And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey. 

Then he that had received the five talents went and traded with the same, and made them other five talents. And likewise he that had received two, he also gained other two. But he that had received one went and digged in the earth, and hid his lord’s money. 

After a long time the lord of those servants cometh, and reckoneth with them. And so he that had received five talents came and brought other five talents, saying, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me five talents: behold, I have gained beside them five talents more. 

His lord said unto him, Well done, thou good and faithful servant: thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord. He also that had received two talents came and said, Lord, thou deliveredst unto me two talents: behold, I have gained two other talents beside them. His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.

Then he which had received the one talent came and said, Lord, I knew thee that thou art an hard man, reaping where thou hast not sown, and gathering where thou hast not strawed: And I was afraid, and went and hid thy talent in the earth: lo, there thou hast that is thine.

His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather where I have not strawed: Thou oughtest therefore to have put my money to the exchangers, and then at my coming I should have received mine own with usury. Take therefore the talent from him, and give it unto him which hath ten talents. For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth”. 

In this case, “talents” is referring to ancient biblical “gold or silver coins” (as far as I know). But in MY opinion, it can also have double-meaning. In TODAY’S terms, the “talents” COULD be money in SOME cases, but in many others, it can also mean “talents” and “abilities” (IN GENERAL).

The bible says in Matthew 25:15 And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey“.

So in other words, in the parable, each man was given talents, according to his “ability”. What does “ability” mean in this case? Does it mean workmanship ability in the temporal working world? Or is it talking about workmanship ability in the SPIRITUAL world? Or could it be a combination of BOTH? The bible doesn’t really specify. But there’s no doubt in my mind that if Jesus were to speak this parable to the modern day world of 2015, that he’d be referring to BOTH.

Romans 12: 6-8 states: Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith; Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching; Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness”. 

Truth be told, we ALL have different talents & abilities. And it’s how we USE those talents and abilities to further the kingdom of God on Earth that matters and that’ll also show WHERE we’ll stand with God/Jesus Christ on the fateful Day of Judgement!

For example, are you good at writing? Start a blog, write a book, produce Facebook notes about Jesus/Salvation, etc. Are you good at photography? Use photography to GLORIFY God’s creation! Are you a good public speaker? Get involved in politics or podcasting/radio or another public forum, in order to glorify the God of the bible! Do you have the power of persuasion? Perhaps street preaching might be good for you.

Are you good at learning and/or speaking foreign languages? Perhaps a missionary trip’s in store for you. Are you good at mathematics? Perhaps the Lord God wants you to use your mathematical abilities to talk about the MATHEMATICAL IMPOSSIBILITY of anything other than Jesus Christ BEING the fulfilled Messiah of Mankind [as over 330+ Old Testament Messianic prophecies were fulfilled by Jesus Christ in the New Testament…….the statistical chances that even ONE man could simultaneously fulfill even just 48 of these, is ASTRONOMICAL BEYOND COMPARE!] 

Are you artistically gifted? You could use your art to GLORIFY God by illustrating Christian books or stories, creating beautiful Christian bible verse cards or creating 3D animated Christian-themed movies or videogames, etc. Are you gifted at singing? You could use your good singing voice to GLORIFY God and to USE your beautiful God-given voice to motivate others to worship the Lord in spirit and in truth! You get the picture……..

But basically, we are use our “spiritual gifts” and “talents” in order to bring HIM glory and in order to FURTHER the Kingdom of God on Earth! And remember that the Kingdom of God on Earth lives WITHIN us! We are to be the EMBODIMENT of that Kingdom! 

Because remember, church is not a place we “go to”, for we “ARE” the church! We, the body/assembly of believers are “the church”! Therefore, we are not “to GO to church”, we are to BE “the church!”

That’s essentially what it means to be a DOER of the written word of God (the  bible) and not just a HEARER, ONLY! 

I hope and pray that ALL who read this will become DOERS of the written Word of God (the bible) and not just hearers, only! Amen. 

 

 

When Someone Stabs You In The Back……

How many of us have ever had someone proverbially stab us in the back?

A friend? A coworker? An ex-boyfriend/girlfriend? A possible family member? Or even a complete stranger?

And how did we feel when they very first did so?

Our first reaction was likely shock and anger, followed by a sense of hurt, resentment & disillusionment. In our younger day, we might’ve thought of *revenge tactics* to get back at them. But in our older day, we slowly come to realize that two wrongs don’t make a right and also that there’s usually something going on with a person psychologically or emotionally if they hurt someone like that.

But you got to realize something. Nine times out of ten, it’s not ABOUT you. It’s really about them and their character. Sometimes someone is having a bad day and happens to “snap” or say something/do something unkind to you. Sometimes someone else is jealous of what YOU have and decide to take it out on you, somehow. And sometimes, a person doesn’t even REALIZE they’re being mean/unkind to you. 

Many people who feel insecure in their own lives will go about trying to put down other people trying to make themselves feel better. But that doesn’t mean you have to partake in their drama. No. You can be better than that.

When Jesus Christ died on the cross for forgiveness of mankind’s sins, he KNEW how humans would be like after that. He knew the future that would encapsulate the “culture” surrounding the passage of Matthew 24:12-13: And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.” Just like he KNEW that many people, in the End of Days, would stab each other in the back and constantly try to “one up” one another (either for the pure revenge of it or just for the mere “fun” of it). 

And though there is the popular saying “don’t get mad, get EVEN”, Jesus Christ would likely say to each of us something along the lines of: “I understand if you’re mad/hurt about this but don’t let your anger get the best of you and do NOT get even”. The Lord God said in the bible in Romans 12:19 (KJV) Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord”

In other words, if we HATE someone that hurt us,  or go out of our way to try to hurt THEM, the only person we’re hurting is ourselves. It takes SO much time and mental energy to HATE someone. But it takes very little time and energy to try to forgive someone. Afterall, we’re all human, we ALL make mistakes.

And besides, that person might not have realized they’ve hurt us. And if they hurt us *intentionally*, well, then it’s really themselves that they’re hurting. Cause no true person in their RIGHT MIND would have to go to such great lengths to hurt someone unless they themselves were hurting from within. Cause remember…the old saying really IS true: “misery loves company”. 

Though some people that LIKE to “one up” people seem to feel pretty good about themselves from the onset. But lets face it. No truly CONFIDENT person would have to hurt someone in order to prove their worth. For if they were TRULY confident in themselves, they wouldn’t HAVE to prove anything, see? Because they’d technically already KNOW their self-worth, without having to prove or justify it.

But I see that type of behavior in people all the time. Female friends try to steal each other’s boyfriends. Brothers try to steal their brothers’ girlfriend(s). Children/teens are rude/mean to their parents or vice versa. Coworkers try to rip each other to shreds when the boss is not looking. Ex-boyfriends and girlfriends acting all “catty” with one another, trying to make one another jealous…Or even people on Youtube MAJORLY mocking others on Youtube, even.

We are now living in the End of Days and what Jesus Christ said in Matthew 24:12-13 (New Testament, book of Matthew, chapter 24, verse 12-13)“And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved”.

Proverbs 20:22 says: “Say not thou, I will recompense evil; but wait on the Lord, and he shall save thee”

Plus the Lord’s Prayer states the following:

“Our Father, which art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy will be done in earth,
As it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts,
As we forgive our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom, The power, and the glory, For ever and ever. Amen”

“So what does THAT mean?”, you may ask yourselves. (The part in which I particularly emphasized and underlined, that is).

It means that if WE want to be forgiven by Jesus Christ for all the wrong things that WE ourselves have ever said or done throughout our lifetime, that WE must forgive OTHERS that have said or done wrong/hurtful things towards US.

And I know that’s easier said than done. But the good thing about the Lord Jesus Christ is that he will ALWAYS answer a sincere prayer.

If there’s someone in your life who has majorly hurt you and you’re having trouble forgiving that person, then take it to Jesus. Pray to him the following:

“Lord, I’m still very hurt and angry over this person who has hurt me. Please help me with forgiving this person as I am still struggling with that. I don’t WANT to hate this person or be mad at them anymore. Please help me Lord. Amen”

And the Lord will slowly help you forgive that person. And once you truly forgive a person and are able to move on with your life, it is the most peaceful, happiest feeling in the world. It’s like the Lord Jesus Christ has set your soul free from the *sinful bondage* of hate/resentment/anger.

Note: EVEN IF somebody has already passed on or you’ve lost contact with that person, you can STILL forgive that person or those people and be released from the sinful bond of anger/resentment/hatred. Just pray: “Lord, I know it’s too late at this point to have an Earthly reconciliation with this person, but please cleanse my heart and mind and allow me to fully forgive this person. Thank-you, Lord. Amen”.

And if it’s a case where you just can’t seem to forgive this person, no matter WHAT you do, (be they dead/lost contact with or alive), pray the following prayer :

“Lord, this person has done SO much to hurt me, I’m STILL angry, hurt, disillusioned, scared. I don’t know if I can ever forgive this person or not, on my own. Please heal me and cleanse me from within so that I can someday forgive this person with no sinful burden of anger in my heart. I don’t WANT to hate anymore! Please help me get rid of the hate in my heart so that I can forgive this person. Amen”.

And pray and believe the prayer with ALL your heart, ALL your soul and ALL your mind and the Lord Jesus WILL cleanse you and help you forgive that person/people! MARK MY WORDS!

See, cause if you CONTINUE to hate someone for hurting you without forgiving them, not ONLY will Jesus Christ not forgive YOU for all YOUR sins throughout your lifetime [Jesus said during the Sermon on the Mount that hate is = to murder in our hearts!] but the hate and resentment will just eat AWAY at you, night and day. Sooner or later, you will start to hate everything and EVERYONE. You will become extremely pessimistic and bitter and find no joy in ANYTHING. Your life will hardly seem worth living.

But if you can learn to forgive someone for hurting you (with the Lord Jesus’s divine help, ofcourse), then your soul will be SET FREE from all that *negative energy* trying to weigh you down. You will feel relaxed, as if a HUGE weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You will feel content and free and joyous in the Lord and joyous in your life. Plus you will be better able to start preaching the gospel again and maybe even having some more opportunities to spread the gospel. Your spirit will feel *spiritually revived*.

Sometimes people are depressed and got problems in their life. So they subconsciously try to hurt or lie to others to try to make themselves feel better. Yet, others are sometimes jealous of what we have and what they feel they do NOT have. But regardless the reason, NEVER let it get to you! Not only does Jesus Christ say we must FORGIVE the people that hurt us in our lifetime but we must also PRAY for them.

We must pray that Satan will lose his grip on their souls and that the Lord will open up their eyes and make them see what they are doing and why it is wrong.

[[And ya know what? Many a Satanist, Wiccan, Atheist, Scientist, Agnostic, criminal, etc. were brought to faith in God by the DILIGENT prayers of the loved ones and/or Christians around them. So never say never. For NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH THE LORD! 😉

In fact, remember that section of the Old Testament that talks about Abraham and his wife Sarai and how God told Abraham that his wife Sarai was to have a baby (even in her old age?) And how both she and Abraham laughed at the idea on separate occasions and of how God said in Genesis 18: 13-14: And the Lord said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old? Is any thing too hard for the Lord? At the time appointed I will return unto thee, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son”.

On the other hand, we should never TOLERATE repeated bad behavior from others. There’s a difference between forgiving someone and getting out of a bad situation.

But no matter the situation, one thing is clear. Jesus Christ hears ALL the prayers of his faithful (those who strive to live by his standards in the bible and beyond).

Even if you DO resent someone right now or you feel like you’re 20 million miles away from Jesus Christ right now, or him from you, pray to be restored to him. Pray that he’ll help you forgive people or overcome whatever sin you’re struggling with right now. Time is of the essence.

The sooner you forgive people in your life, and the sooner you become restored to Jesus Christ again, the better.

I pray for all the souls that read this and pray that each soul that reads this is either brought back to Jesus Christ or comes to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ before it’s too late and their souls are lost for eternity. Amen.