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God Did Not Call The Church To Cowardice/Depraved Submission!!

Many Americans don’t know this but there USED to be a time here in The United States of America when prayer was not only ALLOWED in schools but when the bible (in and of itself) was the main curriculum in the schools/school system!

Religion in the schools Timeline:

1781  Congress approves the purchase of Bibles to be used in schools.

1783  First Noah Webster (Blue Book) Speller is published, with its opening sentence declaring: “No man may put off the law of God.”  This speller is widely used in American schools and is peppered throughout with Bible verses.  Later versions stated, “Noah Webster who taught millions to read but not one to sin.”

1796  In Washington’s Presidential farewell address to the nation he encourages America to learn Biblical teachings to sustain a moral and just country.

1802  Thomas Jefferson acting as President for Washington D.C. schools requires the Bible and the Watts Hymnal to be used in classrooms.

1808  Washington’s Farewell Address is published as a separate text book.  Washington’s Address is looked upon as one of the most important political documents in American history.  In the speech Washington emphases that for America to succeed it must have a moral society which can only come from roots in the Christian faith.  This text book is used until 1960’s.

1830  Dr. Benjamin Rush signer of the Declaration of Independence, letter is published in support of using the Bible as a school textbook.

1844  Girard proposes to teach morals without the Bible.  The Supreme Court rules that American schools are to teach Christianity using the Bible.  The case is argued and won by Daniel Webster. (Videl v. Girard)

1890  Supreme Court rules that America “is a religious people. . . . this is a Christian nation” as such it is fitting that its people would teach their children the Christian faith. (The Trinity Case)

1900  Virtually all school text books published to date have contained Biblical references or teachings.

1925  Tennessee governor signs law forbidding the teaching of evolution in public schools.  ACLU Lawyers take a school district to court in the famous Scopes Monkey Trial in an effort to have evolution taught in Tennessee Public Schools.

1925  Florida State legislators pass law requiring daily Bible reading in public schools.

1946  Dallas schools publish textbook titled “Bible Studies Course for New Testament.”  This book has many questions and answers about the life of Jesus Christ.

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1948  Supreme Court rules that time set aside for prayer in public schools is unconstitutional. (McCollum v. Board of Education)

1962  Supreme Court rules that children may not recite a state written prayer in school (Engel v. Vitale).

1963  Supreme Court bans individual school prayer (Murry v. Curlett) and Bible reading in public schools (Abington Township School District v. Schempp).

1965  Supreme Court rules that a child may pray silently to himself if no one knows he is praying and his lips do not move.

1970  Governor Ronald Reagan signs “No-Fault” Divorce Bill

1973  Roe Vs. Wade LEGALIZES abortion

1980  U.S. schools report the lowest S.A.T. scores ever, after 18 straight years of decline following the 1962 ban on school prayer.

1980  Supreme Court rules that the Ten Commandments can not be posted in classrooms, “for a child might read them, reflect upon them and then obey them.”  (Stone vs. Graham) 

1985  Supreme Court strikes down Alabama law requiring schools to have a moment of silent meditation at the beginning of the day. 

1987  Supreme Court overturns a State Law requiring a balanced treatment of creation science and evolution. (Edwards vs. Aguillard) 

1992  Supreme Court rules Clergy may not offer prayer at graduation ceremonies.  (Lee vs. Weisman) 

2000  Supreme Court rules student initiated or student led prayer at football games is unconstitutional.  (Doe vs. Santa Fe Independent School District)

2004   Supreme Court upholds the words “One Nation Under God” in the Pledge of Allegiance.

2008   Christian run schools and most home schooling programs continue to produce students with higher academic test results then secular public schools.

2015 Supreme Court LEGALIZES gay marriage in all 50 U.S. States

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So as you can see from the above Timeline, from 1948 & ONWARD, the Church just LET the dark side take over (more or less) and became SUBMISSIVE to the Federal Government and to the State! Why? Because the churches wanted Tax-Exempt Status, for one! Which I never understood, really. A pastor is just as much of an American citizen as a Christian lay person. So why should the Christian lay person have to pay taxes but the pastors of churches do NOT? There is grave injustice in that! Jesus Christ is UTTERLY ASHAMED of all the “Christian churches” today and that’s one of the reasons why!

And it’s a really, really sad day in America INDEED when the Supreme Court (which once upon a time actually UPHELD the laws of God) now does nothing but DEFIES the laws of God! OH HOW FAR THIS NATION HAS FALLEN! ;(

So tell me “churches”, was all that “tax-exempt status” WORTH IT, when you ended up having to COMPROMISE GOD’S WORD, in the end? Noah Webster said it best in the year 1783 when the opening sentence of his book stated, “No man may put off the law of God.”

Back in the year 1776, our nation here in America was off to a great start: It had Jesus Christ Almighty as its head & chief cornerstone. And look how wealthy & prosperous our nation had become, as a result! But just 62 years later, in the year 1838, Charles Darwin (who actually stole the “theory” from Alfred Wallace) proclaimed his theory of “Evolution” and that’s when all hell broke lose……that’s when the TRUE war on Christian religious liberty began in this country.

In fact, just a few years later, Girard, in 1844, proposed to teach morals WITHOUT the bible (as many people and “atheist leaders” try to do TODAY!) And that’s honestly laughable at best, since our moral laws are BASED on God’s laws. Remove all law based on God’s law and you’d HAVE no law (and consequently, NO morals!)

Therefore, I submit to you today that it’s IMPOSSIBLE to have morals without the bible since ALL morals/morality is BASED on the bible! And like I’ve said time & time again, if morality is “subjective”, who gets to decide what’s right and wrong? Just like who gets to decide what punishment (if any) should be enacted on a person who transgresses that “subjective morality” (or lack of it, should I say?) To say that one can have morals without God/the bible is REDUNDANT!

But yet, this is what I don’t get, have NEVER gotten and will NEVER get about the Lord’s people. Where were all the biblical/Jewish-roots Christians when “Emperor Constantine”, along with “Catholic bishops”, decided in 325A.D. at the Council of Nicea to make SUN-DAY (the FIRST day of the week) the “Sabbath Day”? Why were they not rising up in arms and revolting? Why were they not speaking out against the GRAVE INJUSTICE this had against the Lord’s people? Why did they just “sit there and take it”, collectively speaking?

And later on in history when Paganized/Roman Catholic holidays were INCORPORATED INTO “Christianity”, why were Jewish-roots Christians not also up in arms about THAT? And speaking out in MASS PROTEST?

And why did the Jewish-roots Christians just “sit and take it”, collectively speaking, when “Emperor Constantine” OUTLAWED the BIBLICAL 7th-Day Sabbath and the Lord’s 7 Annual Holidays outlined in the bible that even Jesus Christ HIMSELF and his disciples celebrated in?

I suppose many of them grew tired and weary and were sick to death of having to fear for their LIVES all the time. So they just caved in…..and compromised in order to “keep the peace”, as it were [except for the very small few that SURVIVED the Inquisition & Catholic onslaught and still worship Jesus Christ in all his full glory & 7th day Sabbath/7th Annual Feasts, TODAY]. And lets face it, that’s REALLY no different than how “The Church” (as a whole) is, TODAY: It has COMPROMISED in order to “Keep The Peace!” But that brings to mind a certain bible passage to me:

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” – Mark 8:36

You can mentally put the word “Church” in place of man and “they” instead of he, and “their” instead of “his” and the meaning of the passage is STILL the same!

In other words, that passage is more or less asking individuals AND the church (as a whole) about what good does it do them to compromise to keep the peace, when it can cost them their own soul? A very good question, INDEED! For the Lord Jesus Christ did NOT call “the church” [which is, the BODY OF BELIEVERS IN CHRIST] to be COWARDS or to “make nice” with sodomy/sin(s). The Lord Jesus Christ called “The Church” [that is, once again, the BODY OF BELIEVERS IN CHRIST] to be wise as serpents, gentle as doves and BOLD AS LIONS when it comes to contending for the Faith!

However, the more and more “world-friendly” the “organized church” BECOMES, the more MORALLY DEPRAVED/SUBMISSIVE/**COMPROMISED** it IS!!!!!! And the more “COMPROMISED” it is, the more EVIL it BECOMES! Today’s “Christian Church” (as a whole) that tolerates abortion, divorce, adultery, materialism, sodomy/homosexuality, etc? It’s just a CULT OF CORRUPTION! And in stark contrast to Jesus angrily over-throwing the money-changers’ tables in the Jewish Temple, LOOK at how many “mega-churches” have gotten in trouble lately for “money-swindling schemes”! Are you REALLY that surprised, folks?

And not only that but where WAS “The Church” when the Supreme Court took prayer out of the schools? Legalized abortion? Legalized gay marriage in all 50 states? When Reagan signed “No-Fault Divorce” into law? When the LGBT Mafia and Planned Parenthood PARADED the K-12 schools with all their “propaganda”? Where WAS the church, THEN? Answer: It was SILENT! Which is WHY there’s so much evil and debauchery in the world today, and specifically here in America! OH HOW FAR & MIGHTY THE CHURCH HAS FALLEN! 😦

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Many “Christians” stated they stopped going “to church” since there was TOO MUCH “HYPOCRISY”. But what it REALLY is, is THIS: The Modern-Day Christian Church is DEAD! It’s APOSTATE! It doesn’t contain the TRUE, everlasting, LIVING gospel of Jesus Christ! It DOES however, contain a FALSE CHRIST on a FALSE SABBATH with a FALSE GOSPEL with a FALSE CHURCH MODEL! And so to ME, it’s really NO WONDER that people are leaving “The Church” IN DROVES! They’re yearning for something MORE! Something more than what “commercialized Christianity” can give them!

And TODAY, I submit to you that you CAN have a personal, one-on-one relationship with Jesus Christ Almighty! It’s called reading the King James Bible, front to back! And then, AS you read through it, slowly meditate on it and write down any Questions you might have. Pray to Jesus Christ about those questions. Bow down on your knees and pray and POUR YOUR HEART OUT TO HIM! He WILL listen to your prayers, MARK MY WORDS!

And then, as you read through your King James Bible and slowly meditate on what you read, the Lord Jesus Christ will REVEAL things to you……things in his written Word that you hadn’t seen before……..in other words, his written word will become all the more CLEAR to you and you will be spiritually enlightened and BROUGHT TO LIFE…..something that definitely would NOT happen in 98% of “churches”, today!

You will know from reading the King James Bible that you ARE a sinner and that the blood atonement of Jesus Christ on the cross is the ONLY way you can receive Salvation: By Grace Through Faith! And then and only then will the Lord Jesus open up your eyes, make you realize that YOU, along with every other human on this planet, is a sinner in NEED of Salvation! And then, as result, praying for forgiveness of your sins and REPENTING/STOPPING your sins should come very naturally!

And then IMMEDIATELY upon believing, become FULL-WATER IMMERSION baptized in the name of Jesus Christ (in a bathtub, shallow end of a swimming pool, etc.) All throughout the bible, people did NOT wait to become baptized. They requested to be baptized in the River Jordan by John the Baptist STRAIGHTAWAY UPON VERY FIRST BELIEVING IN JESUS CHRIST (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE JEWISH MESSIAH!) Yet, he became Messiah TO THE WORLD…..not JUST the Jews!

And after and when you are baptized, you will feel OVERCOME with feelings of inner peace, joy, healing and ELATION! It’s the most HEAVENLY feeling I’ve ever felt in my ENTIRE LIFE! No moment in my life eclipses that moment when I became baptized! 😉

And then, right after you’re baptized, you’ll feel OVERWHELMED with the Holy Spirit and just want to start preaching Jesus Christ to EVERY person you come across! 😉 Kind’ve like when you’re in a relationship with your First Love and you can’t help but talk about that person to other people ALL THE TIME, just BEAMING with pride and joy? So it is with Jesus Christ after we very first become baptized!

But after awhile, just like with any Earthly or Romantic relationship, if we don’t put some EFFORT into the spiritual relationship we have with Jesus Christ, it begins to slowly die off over time, until it becomes practically non-existent:

“Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent” – Revelation 2:4-5

And “The Church” (As A Whole), has left ITS “First Love” (collectively speaking), which is ALMIGHTY YESHUA/JESUS CHRIST ALMIGHTY! Therefore, Jesus is giving us a DIRE WARNING up above in Revelation 2:4-5!

And in closing, I’d just like to say that “The Church” (TRULY/BIBLICALLY-SPEAKING) is NOT a “Building” but rather, A PEOPLE (in and of THEMSELVES), with Jesus Christ being the head/chief cornerstone!

Because remember that the TRUE “Church” of Jesus Christ is the BODY OF BELIEVERS THEMSELVES with Jesus Christ AS the chief cornerstone! It’s ONE gospel, ONE people, ONE unity! There ARE no “dissensions” or “denominations”! It follows the both the Old AND New Testaments! It celebrates the Lord’s 7TH-DAY BIBLICAL SABBATH & the Lord’s 7 Annual Holidays and DOES AWAY WITH ALL THINGS **PAGAN** (including Halloween, Christmas, Easter, New Year’s, Valentine’s Day, etc.)….

It teaches that we’re ALL sinners in NEED of Salvation through Christ Jesus! It teaches REPENTANCE of sin! It teaches us to PRAISE ALMIGHTY YESHUA/JESUS CHRIST **CONTINUOUSLY** (through the good and the bad of our lives!) It teaches us to pray for forgiveness of sin! It teaches us to SPREAD THE GOSPEL ONTO OTHERS! And to love our neighbor as ourselves! Among many other things! In other words, it teaches a BIBLICAL/JEWISH Jesus, a BIBLICAL gospel, a BIBLICAL church model, and BIBLICAL holidays & commandments: the TRUE biblical gospel of Jesus Christ Almighty!

You can read this book for more info [Read 2008 or 2012 revised and updated edition]:

PAGAN CHRISTIANITY

PORNOGRAPHY: SPIRITUAL POISON

One question I’ve always asked myself is: “what would drive a woman to enter the porn industry?” And after doing much research, I’ve come to the conclusion that they were sexually abused/molested when they were younger, came from broken homes/a rough background, or generally just had no emotionally-involved father or father, period, in their lives!

So as a result, as these “broken little girls” become older, they began “desperately looking for love in all the wrong places”. More oftentimes than not, they will become sexually promiscuous. Why? Because when they were “violated” when they were younger, they grew up to subconsciously think that that was “normal” and how they were supposed to receive love & approval from men.

So for THEM, it feels “normal”. They were ALREADY violated as “little girls”, so they figure, “well, I might as well get paid for it, right?” They are used to that “choas” of “sexual violation/exploitation” against them. To them, it feels “familiar” or “normal” (even when many of them subconsciously realize that it’s NOT normal). They are essentially attempting to “re-create” the earlier sexual chaous from their lives in a vague attempt to create some sort of “normalcy” in their lives. They also might see it as some sort of “personal liberation” of sorts. (The Feminist Movement &/or Sexual Revolution of the 60’s had ALOT to do with that type of mindset). But research and ex-porn stars proclaim that women find it anything BUT liberating, after they’ve been in the sex industry after awhile…..

This guy has made an EXCELLENT video on the subject……He also makes some VERY GOOD POINTS about porn addiction, the science behind it, etc. 

Porn was no doubt invented by Satan to KILL, STEAL & DESTROY! It POISONS and DESTROYS the MIND, the HEART, the BODY & the SOUL! It tries to take as MANY victims “spiritually/mentally captive” as possible (both women and men involved in the industry, as well as the people whom become addicted to porn!) 

It destroys relationships and marriages. Think about when a marriage is destroyed when a “porn addict” can no longer “achieve sexual satisfaction” with his WIFE or vice versa! In fact, porn addiction has actually been named as one of the reasons in many divorce cases. 

It also FUELS the temptation for lust and pre-marital sex! 

And not only that but the movie “50 Shades of Grey” should be BANNED! It encourages sexual and physical violation of women! It really does, folks!

If you look at Sasha Grey’s eyes, notice how they seemed to be “swollen shut” and have dark gray circles around them. She’s not smiling. She seems “afraid” of the “pimp guy”. Just goes to show ya. Plus I completely 100% agree with the guy from video#1 up above. Pornographers should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law, just LIKE pimps, for they really ARE no different, save for the presence of a camera! 

It also takes a person away from Jesus Christ Almighty! 

And not only that but WHEN a person views a naked person in the sexual act(s), it’s like they, the porn viewer, are “violating” that “broken little girl” or “broken young man” ALL OVER AGAIN, with just their very eyes! Just like when a little girl or young boy is being raped and a “rapist” is feeling some sort of sick, twisted “satisfaction” over it, what’s any different from a porn viewer “relieving themselves” when watching that ADULT “broken little girl” or “young man” in sexual porn-viewing situations? Because in BOTH cases, the “broken woman” or “broken man” DOING the sex act on camera (for $$$) is being visually and vicariously “taken sexual advantage of” by the porn viewer(s) themselves, like it or not!

Porn is the cause for marital problems/divorce, drug use (as many women in the porn industry get hooked on drugs — so the porn producers can better CONTROL them), premarital sex, teenage pregnancy, unplanned pregnancy, rape (many rapists enact “porn scenes” with their victims), etc.

IF you are struggling with porn today, ASK JESUS CHRIST TO DELIVER YOU FROM IT! You CAN be Saved! But do it TODAY! DON’T WAIT! Because believe me, after yesterday’s Supreme Court decision to LEGALIZE gay marriage all across the board, God’s Wrath is now INDEFINITELY upon this nation and we’re living in the Last Days, folks! There IS no time! When the Lord’s Wrath comes upon this nation in its FULL FORCE, better look out! The Lord’s Wrath will be FIERCE & MIGHTY & POWERFUL! Nothing like the world has ever SEEN! So trust me, the LAST thing you’d ever want the Lord Jesus Christ catching you doing, in times like THESE, is jacking off to some porn site or porn magazine! MARK MY WORDS!

“Lord Jesus, if anyone is involved with the porn industry or struggling with porn addiction today, I pray that you will deliver them from such evil FILTH today and renew their mind, heart, body and spirit. Please deliver them FULLY, POWERFULLY & MIGHTFULLY, so that they never look back to the porn industry/porn consumption ever again! And please open up their eyes to YOUR eternal truth that can ONLY be found in YOU and YOU alone, Lord. Amen”.

  

Note to Christian Women: Don’t Rush Love, Part One

[Note: the following can ALSO apply to single Christian men as well, who are dating all the “wrong types” of women in their quest to “find THE one”. And if that’s you [single Christian male reading this], read on, and just switch the viewpoint as if I’m writing to single, Christian males dating all the wrong types of women, thus far. Thanks and I hope this helps!]

Today’s society places such great importance on love and relationships. So much in fact, that countless numbers of magazine and internet articles are inundated with “relationship advice” and the like. And as a woman is walking around in public (be at the grocery store, Walmart, the mall, the movie theater), more oftentimes than not, she will see COUNTLESS numbers of “happy little couples” walking around and probably wish so desperately that she were part of one herself. And then, if she’s Christian or church-going, she will oftentimes hear sermon after sermon on marriage and family, over and over again, which no doubt sends her the false message that says: “hey, God only values you if you are dating someone, engaged or married”, which can thus, likely make her feel SO ALONE in this world!

But one thing we know from the bible (specifically, near the very beginning of Genesis) is that God values relationships (specifically, those that lead to marriage). And many a single Christian woman will ask herself the fateful question: “if God cared SO MUCH about making sure that Adam wasn’t alone, then why does he seem to care so very little about MY being alone?” and it’s a question that resonates VERY, VERY deeply into the human woman’s soul. When, as a woman, one sees countless numbers of happy little couples walking around, it is easy for a woman to feel jealous or to feel as though something must be wrong with her if so and so is in a relationship but yet, she herself is not.

When that occurs, some women get tired and fed up of waiting, thinking something along the lines of “well, God is sure taking his sweet-heck of a time finding a suitable man/spouse for me, so I think I’m just gonna speed up the process a little bit”. So then what happens, as a result? Answer: They end up dating and/or marrying the wrong guy. They end up dating or settling for Mr. He’s-Not-A-True-Christian-But-I-Love-Him-Anyways, Mr. Maybe, Mr. Right Now, or Mr. Maybe-He-Loves-Me-But-I-Don’t-Know-For-Sure-And-Love-Him-Too-Much-To-Leave. And the results are DISASTROUS!

These women later usually end up being CHEATED ON by these wrong-for-them type boyfriends or husbands or vice versa. Bottom line is, SHE is not fulfilled due to the guy’s LACK of faith/no faith while HE is not fulfilled DUE to her faith. It’s a no-win situation, folks!

They then later end up breaking up or getting divorced and any children that are a product of such “un-evenly yoked” unions tend to suffer from LIFELONG SCARS brought on by the breakup/divorce (one of those lifelong scars may be that they don’t know what real love is or how to have or seek out a good/healthy relationship/marriage someday and will have a statistically higher chance of getting divorced (or having unfulfilling relationships) themselves someday and the pattern repeats itself, over and over again usually, which is tragic).

So what’s an illustrated example of when a woman goes for the wrong type of guy? Well, lets say a woman likes this guy that isn’t a Christian (and he can be atheist, Muslim, Hindu, Mormon, Pagan, Catholic, etc.) And this guy gots alot of good qualities, but he’s not Christian. So the woman thinks to herself: “well, I know he’s not Christian but he gots all these other good qualities….so perhaps it doesn’t matter that much that he’s not Christian…..perhaps I could later get him to convert to Christianity AFTER we get married……I mean….as long as he’s ok with MY being Christian, it will all turn out okay, right?” And usually what happens with that situation is that the guy NEVER CHANGES/NEVER CONVERTS and both the woman AND the guy in question are HIGHLY unfulfilled and bitterness/resentment/divorcement ensue!

OR….in OTHER cases……if the woman decides NOT to date anymore non-Christian guys in her life, the “guy” they’re interested in might even go so far as to try to make her feel BAD or like a “hateful, religious bigot” for refusing to date him since he’s not Christian/not interested in becoming Christian. So then what usually happens? The guy will oftentimes “pretend” like he’s Christian, just to get in a woman’s pants/etc……

OR…..the woman’ll maybe cave and decide she’d rather have more of HIM and less of Jesus in her life. And that’s tragic. Because when we put the “opinion” of others BEFORE the almighty opinion of God, we’ve done ourselves (and the Lord) a SERIOUS disservice! It’s like saying to the Lord, “I’m sorry, Lord….but your opinion on what constitutes a GOOD MAN and a GOOD RELATIONSHIP’s not important enough to me. MY opinion is FAR more superior than YOURS Lord, so just DEAL WITH IT!” 

Another thing a single Christian woman might experience is when a non-Christian or wayward Christian woman seems to have more luck in love and relationships than SHE herself does. So then she will likely start to doubt and question God as in, “Hey there! Wait a minute, I’m a Christian, she’s not…..or a wayward one at best, so why does SHE have a boyfriend and/or husband, and I don’t?” It might seem to her that God is somehow favoring the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman and NOT her (the Christian woman) since God had somehow allowed the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman to have a boyfriend/husband before her. But ya know what, ladies? The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. And you don’t know what goes on inside that relationship or that marriage.

Maybe her boyfriend/husband doesn’t pay any attention to her and is a real jerk to her (behind closed doors). Maybe he never gets anything for her on her birthday, wedding anniversary, etc. or takes her for granted. Or maybe it was one of those “starter marriages” without deep, specific meaning. OR……if her husband DOES treat her really, really good, maybe that is the Lord’s way of trying to secretly draw HER (the “said” non-Christian woman/wayward Christian woman) TO him (the great Lord above) and THAT could never be a bad thing, right? 😉

And besides, if it could happen for the non-Christian woman, then it could MOST CERTAINLY happen for the Christian woman someday, right? 🙂 Sometimes it just takes the Lord awhile to create the most perfect combination in a man.

But for the Christian woman, it’s much better if she waits for the RIGHT MAN (as in, BIBLICAL CHRISTIAN MAN) then wasting all her time dating all the “wrong guys”. That’s not to say that she can’t learn from relationships with non-Christian men and even love and value the man VERY highly but IF the single Christian woman wants to align herself with the TRUE 100% will of God, then the guy she dates MUST be a biblical-based Christian. No exceptions.

And, hey, LOOK….I know and realize that that’s a VERY hard thing for women these days to do, especially since biblically-based Christian men these days are SO few and far between. And then there’s the popular phenomena with “Christian dating sites”. A Christian lady might think it’s the way to go. But ladies, be careful. There’s many male “creepers” out there who are just looking for some “good Christian virgins to be with”, etc. That’s why you ladies out there should be EVER so careful about whom you trust and correspond with online.

In fact, many more “creepers” themselves are starting to go to Christian dating sites to pick their “victims”. Don’t be ONE of them, ladies! Be smart. Never meet one of a guy off a Christian dating site alone. NEVER give out your address or phone number right away. Pray to Jesus about Jesus’s will. And if this guy doesn’t align with Jesus’s will for your life, you better step up and pay attention, ladies!  

That being said, what sorts of traits should a single Christian woman look for in a man? Lets example some biblical principles……

1. Is the guy a Christian? And by Christian, I DON’T mean Catholic, Mormon, Jehovah’s Witness, etc.! I mean, is he a TRUE biblical Christian (Jewish roots Christian is EVEN BETTER)?

2. If he’s a Christian, how is his relationship with the Lord? Does he read the bible and pray often? Does he have a conversion story? Is he thankful for all that the Lord has given him?

3. How does he treat YOU and make YOU feel? Is he patient, considerable, respectful of your time? Does he call or text you when he’s going to be late meeting you? Does he comfort you when you’re sad? Is he happy for you when you are successful? Does he encourage you when you need encouragement or reassurance?

4. Do his values align with YOUR values? For example, if you want kids someday, does he want kids as well? And if you don’t want kids someday, does he also not want kids someday? Or if he does want kids, is he willing to forgo having them to make you happy?

5. Is he willing to save sex until marriage? This one is important. If he is, hold onto that man for dear life and don’t let go, women! 😉

6. Is he willing to do bible study with you each week and/or go to couples counseling with you if your relationship or marriage hits a rough patch?

7. Is he willing to COMMUNICATE and COMPROMISE with you, in order to make your relationship work? This one’s also important. For if a man isn’t willing to communicate or compromise with you early on in the relationship, what good would that guy be in a marriage?

On the other hand……..here are some red flags that a single Christian woman should NOT tolerate in a spouse/dating partner……..

1. He is verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or physically abusive…….

2. He constantly blames YOU for all the problems in the relationship and WILL NOT take the blame for what HE does wrong……..

3. He is hypercritical or super-super religious as in, he constantly criticizes your cooking/etc. or demands you have long hair and wear long skirts all the time…….

4. He lies to you or cheats on you……

5. He pays child support on other children and doesn’t tell you………

6. He is a mama’s boy and expects you to do EVERYTHING for him and does practically NOTHING for you in return……

7. He never takes you out on dates, never tells you he loves you, never does things to show he cares……

8. He doesn’t take the Lord OR you seriously and promises to change bad habits but then never does……….

9. He laughs at your emotional pain on certain things and claims you are being “too sensitive”…..

10. He/she tells you how “hot” other women are…..

11. He blows you off, doesn’t call or text back when he says he will and makes you feel really, really bad about yourself…….

12. He BELITTLES your “Christian religion” (this is HUGE, LADIES! Probably one of THE biggest red flags out there!)

13. He “borrows money” from you all the time and never pays you back or expects YOU to pay for things all the time! 

14. He has an alcohol or drug problem

15). Etc. Etc. 

Sometimes, for all the singles out there, it’s VERY, VERY easy to grow disillusioned and want to date the next person that comes along that we “think” we feel a total emotional/physical attraction type connection with. But we all MUST remember: Jesus Christ knows best. It might “seem” at times that he’s forgotten about all the single Christians down here on this Earth but trust me, he has NOT forgotten about all the single people out there! 

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” – [Matthew 6:33] andBehold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?” – [Matthew 6:26] 

For example, if we had to be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, we all have an extensive list of what we’d ideally want in the perfect mate, right? Like, some of us might want an extremely “nerdy” Christian, while others of us might desire a more social, outspoken Christian. Basically, we all got our different types that we like.

And hey, if we were to all be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, how many times have us single souls (both males and females out there) prayed to the Lord something along the following: “Lord, if you could send a mate into my life that’s _______, Christian, _____ and _______[personality-wise], is into _______ and ________ [hobbies], is ______ feet tall, has ________ colored eyes and _____ hair and speaks with a _____ accent, I’d really, really appreciate it”???? haha 😉 Well, lets face it, that’s quite a tall order that the Lord must then fill. And it could take awhile before he finds JUST the right combination in a person and gets that person to be at the right place at the right time, etc.

So single Christians out there, ya’ll got TWO choices: to wait on the good Lord above to send the RIGHT person into your lives (no matter how long it takes) and be TRULY blessed in life and in love when it DOES happen for ya OR not wait on the Lord, find a “mate” prematurely and then get your heart broken immediately afterwards because you tried to go on your OWN timing instead of the Lord’s timing. The choice is up to you, singles! But don’t say I didn’t warn you! 😉