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How To Achieve The Fruits of the Holy Spirit:

According to Galatians 5: 22-23: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law”.

Okay, now what does this mean, some of you may be asking? When it says SPIRIT, just WHAT type of “spirit” is the passage talking about? I’m glad you asked! The “Spirit” being referenced/referred to in the above bible passage is talking about the HOLY SPIRIT! Now…..for those of you unsure who or what the HOLY SPIRIT is, let me tell you: it is the SPIRIT OF GOD! That’s why it’s called “Holy”.

Okay, some of you might still be confused so I’ll try to explain it a bit better. Look at the “scientific properties” of WATER, for instance (also known as H20). It is the SAME ELEMENT but has 3 different properties (solid/frozen, boiling/steam, and liquid). So it is with God the Heavenly Father and Jesus. It’s the SAME GOD but it’s the same God represented in THREE DIFFERENT FORMS, if that makes any sense?

BEFORE Jesus appeared on the Earth in his FLESHLY incarnate form (by means of a virgin birth) he appeared during the times of the Old Testament in his PRE-FLESH-INCARNATE-FORMS (also known as “Christophanies” – Google it). He was the “King of Salem” that brought out bread and wine to refresh Abram after he won the battle against foreign kings, He shut the mouths of the Lions in the Lions Den, He with the “Son of Man” who was with Daniel’s 3 friends in the Fiery Furnace of Nubuchadnezzar, He was the “Angel of the Lord” besides Joshua at the Battle of Jericho, He was the one who parted the Red Sea, He was the “Burning Bush Not Consumed” that Moses saw, you get the picture…..

Therefore, during the Old Testament times, there was no need for the Holy Spirit because Jesus was there (in PRE-FLESH-INCARNATE form). And during the times of the New Testament times WHILE Jesus was on the Earth, there was no need for the Holy Spirit because Jesus was THERE in fleshly, incarnate form!

In fact, Jesus explained this in further detail to his disciples in John 16:7 when he said the following:

“Nevertheless I tell you the truth; It is expedient for you that I go away: for if I go not away, the Comforter will not come unto you; but if I depart, I will send him unto you”

And in Luke 24:49, Jesus is JUST ABOUT to ascend back up to heaven….But not before he leads his disciples up into Bethany and lays his hands on them to bless them:

“And, behold, I send the promise of my Father upon you: but tarry ye in the city of Jerusalem, until ye be endued with power from on high”

However, it wasn’t until AFTER Jesus left the Earth for good (following his Ascension to Heaven), that the disciples RECEIVED THE HOLY SPIRIT/HOLY GHOST:

And please remember: The Holy Spirit of God is the Spirit that testifies of HIM and His Word! It’s the Spirit that’ll let you KNOW things like: “Yes, this is of God” or “No, this is NOT of God!”

In other words, it’s a Spirit of JOY/SPIRITUAL COMFORT and/of SPIRITUAL CONVICTION/DISCERNMENT! (Note: It is called The Holy Ghost AND The Holy Spirit, depending on what bible version you’re reading).

ACTS 2:1-13:

“And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place. And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting. And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them.

And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit/Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance. And there were dwelling at Jerusalem Jews, devout men, out of every nation under heaven. Now when this was noised abroad, the multitude came together, and were confounded, because that every man heard them speak in his own language. 

And they were all amazed and marvelled, saying one to another, Behold, are not all these which speak Galilaeans? And how hear we every man in our own tongue, wherein we were born? Parthians, and Medes, and Elamites, and the dwellers in Mesopotamia, and in Judaea, and Cappadocia, in Pontus, and Asia, Phrygia, and Pamphylia, in Egypt, and in the parts of Libya about Cyrene, and strangers of Rome, Jews and proselytes, Cretes and Arabians, we do hear them speak in our tongues the wonderful works of God.

And they were all amazed, and were in doubt, saying one to another, What meaneth this? Others mocking said, These men are full of new wine”.

Okay, so in a nutshell, the disciples and many others are sitting around in a room, waiting for the “gift” of the Holy Spirit/Holy Ghost. And this was about 40 days AFTER Jesus ascended back up to heaven through the clouds to be on the right hand side of God the Heavenly Father.

And suddenly, a WHIRLWIND comes into the room and the disciples start SPEAKING on inspiration from the Holy Spirit! And there were Jews from ALL AROUND gathered there at Jerusalem! There were Greek Jews, Arabian Jews, Asian Jews, etc. And they each spoke their own languages (INCLUDING the disciples of Jesus gathered there at Jerusalem!)

So try to imagine for a moment what CONFUSION that must’ve caused them when they HEARD the disciples speaking, but yet, HEARING THEIR OWN LANGUAGE being spoken! In other words, when Peter was up there on podium speaking Galilean (his native language), the Asian Jews didn’t hear Galilean, they heard their own ASIAN LANGUAGE being spoken. The Greek Jews heard Peter speaking in GREEK, the Arab Jews heard Peter speaking in Arabic or Farsi. You get the picture?

And some of the “diaspora Jews” there thought that fact was SO outrageous, that the disciples “must be drunk with new wine”. Even though that might seem like an “innocent” accusation by TODAY’S STANDARDS, back THEN in ancient biblical standards, that was one of THE WORST things you could say or accuse about a person, ESPECIALLY a disciple or one of high-religious-ranking! So imagine how Peter must’ve felt, standing in front of the all those people, being accused of such things!

Yet, in Acts 2:14-21, Peter gives this BOLD RESPONSE:

But Peter, standing up with the eleven, lifted up his voice, and said unto them, Ye men of Judaea, and all ye that dwell at Jerusalem, be this known unto you, and hearken to my words: For these are not drunken, as ye suppose, seeing it is but the third hour of the day. But this is that which was spoken by the prophet Joel;

And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams: And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy:

And I will shew wonders in heaven above, and signs in the earth beneath; blood, and fire, and vapour of smoke: The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before the great and notable day of the Lord come: And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved”.

By then, the Jews that had accused Peter and the other disciples of being “drunk with new wine” had realized their mistake and were amazed at the BOLDNESS of Peter in the declaration and sat up and took notice!

But anyways, there’s the whole story and backstory concerning the Holy Spirit/Holy Ghost. So now that you know WHAT and WHOM the Holy Spirit is, we’re gonna go back to the passage in Galatians:

Galatians 5: 22-23: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law”.

In THIS instance, “fruit” doesn’t mean LITERAL fruit. It means SPIRITUAL FRUIT. Or in other words, what types of RESULTS are you getting from your spiritual walk in Christ? Are people getting saved? Are people being given information between right and wrong? Do most people consider you a patient, kind person? You get the idea.

But to further break down the process of the “fruits of the Spirit”, I’m going to personally define each one and then give you hints and tips on how to personally BECOME the epitome of each one on the list! 😉

Remember, the Galatians 5:22-23 passage goes directly in line with Matthew 17:16-20, which states:

Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them”

Remember the passage in Matthew 21:18-20 where Jesus is hungry and happens across a fig tree that has leaves on it and LOOKS LIKE it has fruit on it but doesn’t have any fruit on it, so Jesus CURSES THE FIG TREE? That is a foreshadowing of all the “fake Christians” that Matthew 7:21-23 says do the following:

“Not every one that saith unto me, ‘Lord, Lord‘, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?‘ And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity“.

Okay, here’s how to NOT be one of those “fake Christians” who end up ETERNALLY CURSED just like the fig tree that LOOKED like it had fruit from the outside but was ROTTEN from the inside: EMPLOY AND EMBODY *THE FRUITS OF THE SPIRIT* (AKA THE *GOOD FRUITS*)….

Galatians 5: 22-23

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law

Love – an intense feeling of deep affection. (We can ALL love our friends and family. That’s easy. Even our enemies do the same. But how well do we LOVE Jesus? How well do we love OTHER HUMAN BEINGS that are NOT our friends and family? That’s what Jesus means when he says in Matthew 22:37-40Jesus said unto him, ‘Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets”.)

Joy – a feeling of great pleasure and happiness. (Do you obey the Lord because you feel like you begrudgingly HAVE to? Or do you obey the Lord Jesus Christ because you WANT to, out of SHEER LOVE and RESPECT for the Savior? Do you feel JOY while obeying his commandments? Do you feel JOY in his Spirit? If not, you’re doing something wrong and you better pray to Jesus quick to find out what the something IS!)

Peace – freedom from war/disturbance, remaining calm, feeling tranquil/content/relaxed. (Do you feel at peace with your day to day life? If so, why not? Is there something you’re doing wrong in your walk with Christ? If so, FIX IT! And if you DO feel “at peace” with your day to day life in Christ, that’s a good sign, it means you’re on the path that Jesus WANTS you on, in life. If you feel “peace” about a move, a job change, a marriage, it means that Jesus is behind it. Note: If you DON’T feel peace about something, or don’t feel “at peace” WITH Jesus, there’s something wrong! Better examine it while you still have a chance!)

Longsuffering – having or showing patience in spite of troubles, especially those caused by other people. (Do you CAVE at the first sign of pressure? Do you immediately get into an argument if someone hurts you? Or do you try to reanalyze and reassess the situation……..maybe they didn’t mean to hurt you? Maybe they were having a bad day?)

Gentleness – the quality of being kind, tender, or mild-mannered. (Think of children, pets, and old people. Do you hold the door open for old people or help them put things in their shopping basket? Are you gentle and patient with pets and children when they act up? Are you gentle with your spouse if you disagree with them about something?) 

Goodness – the quality of being morally good or virtuous (Please remember that Jesus AND the bible define virtue and “moral good” as those people who SUBMIT to Jesus and his biblical laws! For a person can’t be a “good person” without Christ!)

FAITH – complete trust or confidence in Jesus and/or his promises, even if not (yet) seen (Hebrews 11:6 says: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him”).

Meekness – being submissive, humble and agreeable (but not sinning when doing so – i.e. being “submissive” to God’s Word, not blaming Jesus or others for what’s wrong in your life or in your job, etc.)

Temperance – self-control, abstinence from strong alcoholic drink and/or “all non-sinful things in moderation?” (i.e. eating a “moderate” amount of food instead of over-eating, only watching an hour of TV every night instead of all night, only being on the computer for an hour each night, instead of all night, etc.?)

Self-Application Study Guide Questions:

1). Have you ever failed to show “LOVE” to someone? Who? Why? How? What can you do from now on to make sure it doesn’t happen again? How have you felt before when someone else refused to show “love” to you in a given situation?

2). Who or what do you find your “JOY” in? Why? Would Jesus approve of the said thing or person you find “joy” in? Why or why not? What stories from the bible (if any) give you joy? Why? How can you INCORPORATE some of that joy into your OWN life? Do you feel JOY at the mere mention of Jesus and/or salvation? If not, why not? Are you jealous of other Christians who seem to have much “joy” in their lives, despite all the calamities they face? If so, that’s a good sign for there IS such a thing as “righteous envy” and Jesus can take that “righteous envy” of yours and use it for HIS GLORY! So fret not!

3). Do you feel a sense of PEACE in your life, concerning Jesus and and the gospel? Why or why not? If not, whom or what is holding you back from feeling that sense of peace in Jesus in your life? What steps can you take to recapture that peace in Jesus that was stolen from your life from said thing or person? Note: If someone has stolen your “peace in Jesus”, then that means you’re doing something wrong! That either means you’re either caving in to the pressures of persecution, you happen to be dating or married to a non-Christian or you’ve allowed someone to slowly creep in and rob you of your faith! The only way to have PEACE IN JESUS is to REPENT OF ALL SIN *TO* JESUS and get back on the “battlefield of life!”

4). Remember the parable of the sower? What happens when persecution hits ya? Do you get scared and give up and go running for the hills? Do you back off from your faith and/or your preaching a bit, hoping that the persecution will die down soon? Do you stress and buckle underneath all the pressure you’re under from school, home, work, etc.? Or do you face whatever “trials” come your way head-on, KNOWING that Jesus is with you? If you tend to run away from trials and tribulations, WHY? And what steps can you do to change that from now on? Did you know that even the demons themselves tremble and believe in Jesus? So why don’t YOU?

Longsuffering simply means the ability to remain calm NO. MATTER. WHAT. In other words, a group of people might be spiritually persecuting you. Do you give up and go running away (i.e. change jobs?) Or do you face the persecution head-on, knowing that no matter what, Jesus is with you and they (the persecutors) won’t win? Please remember that our faith is tested by FIRE (i.e. trials and tribulations). So if you can’t stand in spiritual battle NOW, how ever will you be able to stand in spiritual battle later, when the “heat of persecution” INTENSIFIES?

5). Gentleness – How many of us have gotten occasionally impatient with small children, pets or old people? Our young children are acting up, our pet is acting up and not minding us, the old person ahead of us in line at the checkout is taking FOR-EVEEERRRR to pay……Nearly all of us, at some point or another, if we’re being completely honest. But the “fruit” of gentleness just means we need to be PATIENT and GENTLE at ALL TIMES (even during the times when we’re about to LOSE patience). That’s why Jesus says to anger but NOT to sin IN our anger. Trust me, it’s an acquired learning exercise. What types of situations have you been impatient with a young child, a pet or an old person? Why? How? What types of situations in the future can you utilize to be PATIENT and GENTLE with small children, pets and old people?

6). Goodness – Funny how almost every single human on the planet would (in their own mind) define themselves as a “good person”. Because hey, no-one really likes admitting their own failures and shortcomings, am I right? It makes them feel so……..small……like such a “terrible” human being with flaws……..with………sin……….with…….oh my gosh….(gasp!) IMPERFECTIONS! However, the bible (and Jesus) define a good person by how well they RECEIVE the gospel AND apply it to their LIFE!

Have you ever been unkind to someone? Why? How? Did being unkind TO that someone help or hurt the situation? Did you feel guilty at all afterwards, on the inside? Why or why not? We must be “GOOD” (that means be KIND) to ALL people, according to the bible! It’s a part of “loving our neighbor as ourselves”. Noah was defined in the bible as a good man, a righteous man who always tried to OBEY the Lord. And no doubt OBEYING the Lord (on Noah’s part) very likely meant loving OTHER PEOPLE as he loved the Lord and HIMSELF!

7). **FAITH**Hebrews 11:6 says: “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him”.

For those people who have actually SEEN Jesus during a Near-Death Experience, faith is nearly automatic! But for those who have NOT seen Jesus during an N.D.E., faith is a little more hard to come by, I know. How much faith in Jesus (if any) do you have? Why? If not alot, why is that? Do you think the universe came to be by mere accident? Do you think that colored illustrated books just produce, write, illustrate and publish themselves?

There is SO MUCH EVIDENCE for Jesus and his existence (outside of N.D.E.’s AND outside of Christian sources, even) that it’s not even funny! In the Old Testament, Saul is told that Jesus prefers FAITH over sacrifice! Also, it was Abraham’s FAITH that was accounted to him for all righteousness! If you don’t have faith or alot of faith, you can always PRAY TO HAVE FAITH! 😉

Your key always opens up the lock to your house/apt., your microwave always turns on when you hit the power button, the TV remote always turns off when you turn it off. Therefore, if you have faith in inanimate things, why don’t you have more faith in Jesus, the one true LIVING GOD? What steps can you take to increase your faith? The bible says that faith comes by hearing and that hearing comes by READING THE WORD (The Bible itself!) So what steps can you take to increase your reading of the bible daily?

8). Meekness – How submissive to Jesus and God’s Written Word (the bible) are you? Do you find yourself “questioning certain parts” or “disagreeing with others?” Do you find yourself “questioning God” or certain biblical characters on a continual basis? If so, why? And/or do you find yourself feeling “superior” to other Christians for all your biblical-based bible knowledge or principles? Why? How?

Do you occasionally find yourself questioning Jesus’s orders? (i.e. “But Jesus………this doesn’t make any sense to me! Why should I print an Op-Ed letter to you when that seems totally crazy to me? I don’t get it. Until I understand why, I’m not doing it!”) Are you “meek” (submissive and humble) towards Jesus, the bible and others? If not, why? What steps can you take to learn to be more meek and humble? Jesus says the meek and the humble SHALL INHERIT THE EARTH (i.e. New Jerusalem talked about in Revelation 21-22!)

9). Temperance – Do you have “modesty?” “Self-control?” If not, why? Whom or what are you addicted to? Why? How? How does this “addiction” play into the fact that the “fruit” of the Spirit REQUIRES us to have “self-control”? Can you see how said “addiction” is taking you AWAY from Jesus and the gospel of Salvation?

If the serving on the package says 1 cup, do you eat 5 cups serving instead? If so, why? The bible condemns drunkenness. Do you ever get drunk? If so, WHY? In my mind, this does NOT just apply to “addictions” like alcohol, drugs, sex, videogames, partying, food and the like. It also means WITH OUR WORDS! Are we able to “self-control” our WORDS? Are we able to “self-control” our ANGER and our ACTIONS?

How many times have you lost “self-control” over something or someone? Why? How? Do you see HOW and WHERE the LACK of “self-control” came from? What steps can you take to overcome said LACK of self-control? With time, prayer, patience and training, YOU can train yourself to have more “self-control” and “self-restraint”.

I hope this has helped someone today know how to apply the 9 FRUITFUL GIFTS of the Holy Spirit/Holy Ghost to their lives! Thanks and have a great evening! 😉

 

 

 

 

Note to Christian Women: Don’t Rush Love, Part One

[Note: the following can ALSO apply to single Christian men as well, who are dating all the “wrong types” of women in their quest to “find THE one”. And if that’s you [single Christian male reading this], read on, and just switch the viewpoint as if I’m writing to single, Christian males dating all the wrong types of women, thus far. Thanks and I hope this helps!]

Today’s society places such great importance on love and relationships. So much in fact, that countless numbers of magazine and internet articles are inundated with “relationship advice” and the like. And as a woman is walking around in public (be at the grocery store, Walmart, the mall, the movie theater), more oftentimes than not, she will see COUNTLESS numbers of “happy little couples” walking around and probably wish so desperately that she were part of one herself. And then, if she’s Christian or church-going, she will oftentimes hear sermon after sermon on marriage and family, over and over again, which no doubt sends her the false message that says: “hey, God only values you if you are dating someone, engaged or married”, which can thus, likely make her feel SO ALONE in this world!

But one thing we know from the bible (specifically, near the very beginning of Genesis) is that God values relationships (specifically, those that lead to marriage). And many a single Christian woman will ask herself the fateful question: “if God cared SO MUCH about making sure that Adam wasn’t alone, then why does he seem to care so very little about MY being alone?” and it’s a question that resonates VERY, VERY deeply into the human woman’s soul. When, as a woman, one sees countless numbers of happy little couples walking around, it is easy for a woman to feel jealous or to feel as though something must be wrong with her if so and so is in a relationship but yet, she herself is not.

When that occurs, some women get tired and fed up of waiting, thinking something along the lines of “well, God is sure taking his sweet-heck of a time finding a suitable man/spouse for me, so I think I’m just gonna speed up the process a little bit”. So then what happens, as a result? Answer: They end up dating and/or marrying the wrong guy. They end up dating or settling for Mr. He’s-Not-A-True-Christian-But-I-Love-Him-Anyways, Mr. Maybe, Mr. Right Now, or Mr. Maybe-He-Loves-Me-But-I-Don’t-Know-For-Sure-And-Love-Him-Too-Much-To-Leave. And the results are DISASTROUS!

These women later usually end up being CHEATED ON by these wrong-for-them type boyfriends or husbands or vice versa. Bottom line is, SHE is not fulfilled due to the guy’s LACK of faith/no faith while HE is not fulfilled DUE to her faith. It’s a no-win situation, folks!

They then later end up breaking up or getting divorced and any children that are a product of such “un-evenly yoked” unions tend to suffer from LIFELONG SCARS brought on by the breakup/divorce (one of those lifelong scars may be that they don’t know what real love is or how to have or seek out a good/healthy relationship/marriage someday and will have a statistically higher chance of getting divorced (or having unfulfilling relationships) themselves someday and the pattern repeats itself, over and over again usually, which is tragic).

So what’s an illustrated example of when a woman goes for the wrong type of guy? Well, lets say a woman likes this guy that isn’t a Christian (and he can be atheist, Muslim, Hindu, Mormon, Pagan, Catholic, etc.) And this guy gots alot of good qualities, but he’s not Christian. So the woman thinks to herself: “well, I know he’s not Christian but he gots all these other good qualities….so perhaps it doesn’t matter that much that he’s not Christian…..perhaps I could later get him to convert to Christianity AFTER we get married……I mean….as long as he’s ok with MY being Christian, it will all turn out okay, right?” And usually what happens with that situation is that the guy NEVER CHANGES/NEVER CONVERTS and both the woman AND the guy in question are HIGHLY unfulfilled and bitterness/resentment/divorcement ensue!

OR….in OTHER cases……if the woman decides NOT to date anymore non-Christian guys in her life, the “guy” they’re interested in might even go so far as to try to make her feel BAD or like a “hateful, religious bigot” for refusing to date him since he’s not Christian/not interested in becoming Christian. So then what usually happens? The guy will oftentimes “pretend” like he’s Christian, just to get in a woman’s pants/etc……

OR…..the woman’ll maybe cave and decide she’d rather have more of HIM and less of Jesus in her life. And that’s tragic. Because when we put the “opinion” of others BEFORE the almighty opinion of God, we’ve done ourselves (and the Lord) a SERIOUS disservice! It’s like saying to the Lord, “I’m sorry, Lord….but your opinion on what constitutes a GOOD MAN and a GOOD RELATIONSHIP’s not important enough to me. MY opinion is FAR more superior than YOURS Lord, so just DEAL WITH IT!” 

Another thing a single Christian woman might experience is when a non-Christian or wayward Christian woman seems to have more luck in love and relationships than SHE herself does. So then she will likely start to doubt and question God as in, “Hey there! Wait a minute, I’m a Christian, she’s not…..or a wayward one at best, so why does SHE have a boyfriend and/or husband, and I don’t?” It might seem to her that God is somehow favoring the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman and NOT her (the Christian woman) since God had somehow allowed the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman to have a boyfriend/husband before her. But ya know what, ladies? The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. And you don’t know what goes on inside that relationship or that marriage.

Maybe her boyfriend/husband doesn’t pay any attention to her and is a real jerk to her (behind closed doors). Maybe he never gets anything for her on her birthday, wedding anniversary, etc. or takes her for granted. Or maybe it was one of those “starter marriages” without deep, specific meaning. OR……if her husband DOES treat her really, really good, maybe that is the Lord’s way of trying to secretly draw HER (the “said” non-Christian woman/wayward Christian woman) TO him (the great Lord above) and THAT could never be a bad thing, right? 😉

And besides, if it could happen for the non-Christian woman, then it could MOST CERTAINLY happen for the Christian woman someday, right? 🙂 Sometimes it just takes the Lord awhile to create the most perfect combination in a man.

But for the Christian woman, it’s much better if she waits for the RIGHT MAN (as in, BIBLICAL CHRISTIAN MAN) then wasting all her time dating all the “wrong guys”. That’s not to say that she can’t learn from relationships with non-Christian men and even love and value the man VERY highly but IF the single Christian woman wants to align herself with the TRUE 100% will of God, then the guy she dates MUST be a biblical-based Christian. No exceptions.

And, hey, LOOK….I know and realize that that’s a VERY hard thing for women these days to do, especially since biblically-based Christian men these days are SO few and far between. And then there’s the popular phenomena with “Christian dating sites”. A Christian lady might think it’s the way to go. But ladies, be careful. There’s many male “creepers” out there who are just looking for some “good Christian virgins to be with”, etc. That’s why you ladies out there should be EVER so careful about whom you trust and correspond with online.

In fact, many more “creepers” themselves are starting to go to Christian dating sites to pick their “victims”. Don’t be ONE of them, ladies! Be smart. Never meet one of a guy off a Christian dating site alone. NEVER give out your address or phone number right away. Pray to Jesus about Jesus’s will. And if this guy doesn’t align with Jesus’s will for your life, you better step up and pay attention, ladies!  

That being said, what sorts of traits should a single Christian woman look for in a man? Lets example some biblical principles……

1. Is the guy a Christian? And by Christian, I DON’T mean Catholic, Mormon, Jehovah’s Witness, etc.! I mean, is he a TRUE biblical Christian (Jewish roots Christian is EVEN BETTER)?

2. If he’s a Christian, how is his relationship with the Lord? Does he read the bible and pray often? Does he have a conversion story? Is he thankful for all that the Lord has given him?

3. How does he treat YOU and make YOU feel? Is he patient, considerable, respectful of your time? Does he call or text you when he’s going to be late meeting you? Does he comfort you when you’re sad? Is he happy for you when you are successful? Does he encourage you when you need encouragement or reassurance?

4. Do his values align with YOUR values? For example, if you want kids someday, does he want kids as well? And if you don’t want kids someday, does he also not want kids someday? Or if he does want kids, is he willing to forgo having them to make you happy?

5. Is he willing to save sex until marriage? This one is important. If he is, hold onto that man for dear life and don’t let go, women! 😉

6. Is he willing to do bible study with you each week and/or go to couples counseling with you if your relationship or marriage hits a rough patch?

7. Is he willing to COMMUNICATE and COMPROMISE with you, in order to make your relationship work? This one’s also important. For if a man isn’t willing to communicate or compromise with you early on in the relationship, what good would that guy be in a marriage?

On the other hand……..here are some red flags that a single Christian woman should NOT tolerate in a spouse/dating partner……..

1. He is verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or physically abusive…….

2. He constantly blames YOU for all the problems in the relationship and WILL NOT take the blame for what HE does wrong……..

3. He is hypercritical or super-super religious as in, he constantly criticizes your cooking/etc. or demands you have long hair and wear long skirts all the time…….

4. He lies to you or cheats on you……

5. He pays child support on other children and doesn’t tell you………

6. He is a mama’s boy and expects you to do EVERYTHING for him and does practically NOTHING for you in return……

7. He never takes you out on dates, never tells you he loves you, never does things to show he cares……

8. He doesn’t take the Lord OR you seriously and promises to change bad habits but then never does……….

9. He laughs at your emotional pain on certain things and claims you are being “too sensitive”…..

10. He/she tells you how “hot” other women are…..

11. He blows you off, doesn’t call or text back when he says he will and makes you feel really, really bad about yourself…….

12. He BELITTLES your “Christian religion” (this is HUGE, LADIES! Probably one of THE biggest red flags out there!)

13. He “borrows money” from you all the time and never pays you back or expects YOU to pay for things all the time! 

14. He has an alcohol or drug problem

15). Etc. Etc. 

Sometimes, for all the singles out there, it’s VERY, VERY easy to grow disillusioned and want to date the next person that comes along that we “think” we feel a total emotional/physical attraction type connection with. But we all MUST remember: Jesus Christ knows best. It might “seem” at times that he’s forgotten about all the single Christians down here on this Earth but trust me, he has NOT forgotten about all the single people out there! 

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” – [Matthew 6:33] andBehold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?” – [Matthew 6:26] 

For example, if we had to be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, we all have an extensive list of what we’d ideally want in the perfect mate, right? Like, some of us might want an extremely “nerdy” Christian, while others of us might desire a more social, outspoken Christian. Basically, we all got our different types that we like.

And hey, if we were to all be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, how many times have us single souls (both males and females out there) prayed to the Lord something along the following: “Lord, if you could send a mate into my life that’s _______, Christian, _____ and _______[personality-wise], is into _______ and ________ [hobbies], is ______ feet tall, has ________ colored eyes and _____ hair and speaks with a _____ accent, I’d really, really appreciate it”???? haha 😉 Well, lets face it, that’s quite a tall order that the Lord must then fill. And it could take awhile before he finds JUST the right combination in a person and gets that person to be at the right place at the right time, etc.

So single Christians out there, ya’ll got TWO choices: to wait on the good Lord above to send the RIGHT person into your lives (no matter how long it takes) and be TRULY blessed in life and in love when it DOES happen for ya OR not wait on the Lord, find a “mate” prematurely and then get your heart broken immediately afterwards because you tried to go on your OWN timing instead of the Lord’s timing. The choice is up to you, singles! But don’t say I didn’t warn you! 😉 

Jesus Christ communicates in unusual ways…

Now…..before most of you write me off as “crazy”, I would like to talk about how Jesus communicates in unusual ways. When most of us think of a “communication” or “message” from Jesus Christ, we tend to picture dreams, visions, and near-death experiences.

But it goes so much more beyond that…….if you’re willing to open up your eyes and see…….

Jesus Christ communicates with most of us daily, we just don’t always realize it……

For example, I was driving home today when I just so happened to put it on a Christian station and soon as I did, a guy came on the radio and said “Don’t tell God how big your mountain is, tell the mountain how big your God is”.

And as I drove on, I thought about those words. What did they really mean? Was it some sort of radio promo? What the heck?

But then I realized that the Lord Jesus Christ had meant those words for ME…Yes…ME….Because as of late, I’ve sort of gone into the “look at what all I’m doing for your good heavenly name” mode , instead of the “Lord, in your heavenly name, all things are possible” mode.

Yet, how weird that the Lord Jesus would pick the car radio to speak to me and give me his message. Yet, he did. The Lord never ceases to amaze me.

Another weird thing is my niece. She was over at the house the other night for a family dinner and was sitting in her high chair. All of a sudden, she kept looking up at the ceiling and throwing her hands in the air high above herself with her eyes closed the way you see people do at churches when they’re praying. It was weird. It was like it was some sort of weird sign from the Lord Jesus Christ to me. Perhaps it was a reminder that I NEEDED to pray and give the Lord more PRAISE more often.

A 3rd weird thing is that happened to me this week is that I was bitching and complaining to my mom about how I needed some new jeans. Later on that afternoon, my sister called me and asked me to come hang out with my niece while she got her house cleaned. And after my niece started getting fussy and me and my sister had to put her down for a nap, my sister went through her old clothes and gave me 5 pairs of jeans she didn’t want anymore. So see? The Lord answers & hears the prayers of the righteous and the Lord provides in our times of need!

How great and wonderful is our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ Almighty! 😉