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Unanswered Prayers: “Does the Lord have it out for me?”

Many of us have prayed for certain things in our lives. And prayed and prayed and prayed for that person/those things/that one thing, until we felt as though we could pray for it/them/that person no longer.

“Did the Lord even HEAR my prayer? Does he EVEN CARE?”, many of us have wondered.

And the truth is, sometimes the answer we receive back from the Lord is not exactly the answer we’d like to hear.

And at first, we might feel despondent, hurt, angry and betrayed. But we humans ALL have to remember something and that’s THIS: The Lord knows what’s best for us!

Okay ladies: think back to the time of the 7th or 8th grade, high-school or even college. Chances are, there was likely this “one guy” you PRAYED for to be yours, night and day, day and night. And chances are, that “guy” eventually moved on to someone else and left you feeling “crushed”.

And guys: lets face it. Most of you probably had that “one girl” in your life that you had always held up on a pedestal, considered to be your “dream girl” and that you wanted to possibly have babies with someday. And like most guys, when you didn’t make a move on her (because you were intimidated by her beauty) or she was just too shy/nervous around you, period or the Lord just decided he had other plans for her life, that probably left you feeling “devastated” and as though your very heart were bleeding to the ground!

And then you began to feel like the Lord Jesus had it out for you, that he was somehow punishing you for something, since he wouldn’t give you even just ONE chance with this “dream person” you wanted so bad, am I right?

And then, more than likely, you began to silently beat yourself up over it as in, “IF ONLY I hadn’t been so shy and scared to give this nice guy a chance” (women) or “if only I had developed a pair and asked her out and/or asked her to hang out as friends at first so she wouldn’t be so shy around me” (guys). And you began to OBSESS over it, over and over again, asking yourself (as well as the Lord above): “What could I have said or done differently to change the outcome of events? Does this person hate me or something? Is there something wrong with me? And/or what is so and so (people that are already engaged/married to/dating their “dream person”) doing right that I myself am doing so wrong?”

Or perhaps you or someone else you know has some sort of physical ailment/disease that you WISH SO DESPERATELY that the Lord Jesus would CURE! And then, when that ailment/disease DOESN’T get cured, you start to get so angry and despondent against the Lord, wondering if the Lord Jesus CARES AT ALL about you! You began to think thoughts like: “yeah well, if the Lord actually CARED about me, he wouldn’t let this thing happen and he’d cure it outright!”

But we all got to remember something, here and that’s this: EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON!

Okay ladies, so maybe that cute guy from High-School, college or middle school DIDN’T notice you. And while it might’ve hurt like HECK at the time, guess what! It ONLY means that the good Lord above has or had a MUCH BETTER GUY in store for you!

And besides, if you were to now re-examine that old crush of yours today, chances are, he’s the type of guy you wouldn’t even want to be with these days, anyhow! So remember that the Lord Jesus Christ was just saving you from a potential “wrong-for-you” type of guy!

Think of any “nice guys” you’ve run into, lately. A male friend who’s been your shoulder to cry on whenever a guy’s been a jerk to you, a nice nerdy guy that’s most recently admitted his feelings for you. This “unconventional nice guy” may just be THE GUY that the Lord has in store for you, ladies! So give that poor sweet guy a chance! You’ll most likely be glad you did! 😉

And guys: if that “dream girl” never noticed you, that can only mean one or two things: either the good Lord has or had a MUCH BETTER woman in store for you, or you blew your chance with the girl by not manning up and asking her out.

But beware: Sometimes when a girl is shy, she might SAY that you’re not her type BECAUSE she’s super super nervous around you. So ask that girl out TWICE. If she says no the 2nd time in a row, then I think the good Lord has given you your answer on her.

And ladies, if a guy rejects you or tells you the classic line: “I’m not looking for a relationship right now”, take him at his word and move on. I haven’t personally heard of ANY guy on the Earth that’ll reject a woman he really likes (unless he’s a prideful jerk of sorts, and if THAT’S the case, you wouldn’t want the guy anyways, trust me on this!)

And no, it might not be the answer you want to hear but know this: the good Lord DOES have a woman in store for you (guys) or a man in store for you (ladies). You just have to recognize that person when you see them. It could be that cute person next to you in the line at Starbucks, it could be that female friend (guys) or that male friend (ladies) who’s had a thing for you for YEARS! Basically, he/she could be right underneath your nose and you won’t even know it unless you “let go” of the “idea” of the “dream girl” (guys) or “dream guy” (ladies).

And for all the people out there who prayed to have their own or someone else’s physical disease/ailment healed and the Lord Jesus didn’t seem to answer, it’s not that the Lord Jesus doesn’t care. In fact, it’s quite the contrary! Jesus Christ cares more about you than you EVEN realize! He loves all of his creation and wants what’s best for it! But when the human creation acts up and thinks they “don’t need God and/or redemption”, he has NO CHOICE but to pull back a little from their lives and let them hit rock bottom before they realize their NEED for a Saviour!

Sometimes when the Lord Jesus gives us or someone around us a physical disease/ailment or financial disaster, or some sort of other “life crises”, he does that IN HIS OWN MERCY in order to HUMBLE US and to draw us back closer to HIM! Because lets face it, when we have everything we need, that’s the time in our lives when we think we don’t NEED God! BUT….when something bad happens to us or someone around us, THAT is when we start crying to God and praying to the Lord Jesus Christ for mercy, am I right?

So maybe you didn’t get that job or promotion you so desperately wanted. So what. It’s not the end of the world. The Lord Jesus Christ actually has a MUCH BETTER option waiting for you, if you would just wait on him and trust in HIM and HIM, ALONE!

Going back to the “old school crush”, ladies: maybe the Lord Jesus Christ knew way ahead of time that that particular guy was going to turn into a hateful, spiteful, drunken, violent drug addict someday and he didn’t want you going through the pain of dealing with that. Or perhaps he’s currently married with 3-5 kids and has completely OPPOSING viewpoints from you when it comes to politics, religion, foreign policy, etc.

Basically, there was a REASON the Lord knew ahead of time that the guy wasn’t right for you. And so essentially the Lord Jesus was (in the long run) just trying to save you from ending up with the wrong guy someday. While you might’ve been mad about it at the time (the guy rejecting you or going for some other chic who was outgoing), chances are, you likely realize now, looking back, that it was never meant to be between you and Mr. Hot Stuff.

And guys: maybe the Lord Jesus knew that your “dream girl” was gonna be full of emotional baggage/trauma/severe depression/health problems and was just trying to save you from that. Or perhaps it’s not that the Lord Jesus doesn’t want you to be with your “dream girl”, perhaps the Lord Jesus wants to heal her pain/trauma/depression FIRST, and THEN later have her be with you when she’s in a more better state of mind.

As for relationships that didn’t work out (men and ladies?) I guess that’s just the Lord’s way of giving us a sort’ve “test run” and preparing us someday for what will eventually become *THE RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE* someday when we DO meet the right person! Because you have to admit it: good relationships and good communication skills are learned by EXPERIENCE! 😉

But going back to the main topic at hand, here: when we pray to the Lord Jesus Christ about something and the prayer is truly genuine, Jesus Christ IS going to give an answer (even IF the answer is no answer).

And the answer we get back from the Lord on a certain prayer is gonna be one of 8 things:

  1. YES
  2. NO
  3. MAYBE
  4. NOT RIGHT NOW
  5. I’LL THINK ABOUT IT/WE’LL SEE
  6. IF YOU EARN IT/WHAT WILL YOU BE WILLING TO SACRIFICE IN YOUR LIFE IF I DO THIS FOR YOU?
  7. IF X,Y, AND Z HAPPEN FIRST
  8. I DON’T KNOW/NO COMMENT/CAN’T GIVE A SUFFICIENT ANSWER RIGHT NOW

And sometimes, the Lord Jesus can later change his mind on his answer, depending on the extenuating circumstances. But for the most part, his answer is solid and we must learn to live with whatever answer he gives us.

Remember that what originally appears to be a downfall in our lives may later turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Case in point: I was always the “shy girl” that never really seemed to fit in with the “cool crowd” back in middle school and high school. But now, looking back, I feel FOREVER BLESSED that the Lord Jesus made me shy since it’s kept me out of trouble! Since I was never invited to any “parties”, I never got into the drug scene, smoking, sexual promiscuity or that sort’ve thing. In fact, it has helped me to remain more “pure” for my future husband someday! 🙂

And yes, at the time, it really hurt, not really fitting in with all the other “cool kids” and being made fun of and laughed at all the time for being so “shy” and “innocent” but looking back, I absolutely LOVE who I am today, and wouldn’t change it for anything in the world! 🙂 And I will be ETERNALLY grateful that he actually SPARED me from all from the “spiritual destruction” that goes on during “parties”, etc.

{{And true, I’m not perfect at all. Just like the rest of YOU on here (dear readers of this blog), I HAVE made some mistakes in life and have sinned from time to time in my life just like the rest of you. However, I can be rest assured in the fact that WITH the Lord Jesus Christ, anything is possible and that I’m more than capable of overcoming any and all sin(s) in my life. Hint: The easiest way to overcome greed is to donate to others less fortunate than us!}}

But getting back on the subject of unanswered prayers: there’s even an old country song with the lyrics: “sometimes I think God for unanswered prayers, just because he don’t answer doesn’t mean he don’t care” and I think that pretty much says it all.

You can listen to the song here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsl_a3Cu4OQ

The answer we hear back from the Lord may not always be the answer we want to hear but it is an “answer”, nonetheless. And lets face it, sometimes no answer IS the answer. But in MY humble experience, no answer usually means “no” on the Lord’s part. We can beg and beg and beg the Lord for things/people. But in the end, only the Lord himself knows if that thing/those things/those people are actually right for us or not.

We draw from our own limited human (mostly sinful) understanding but the Lord Jesus Christ draws from his own spiritual understanding. We HAVE to remember that he’s already well-versed in space and time. He knows everything that’s already happened in our lives, what’s going on in our lives right NOW, and what WILL happen in our lives. And he knows way, way ahead of time what person/thing/things are going to be good for us and which ones aren’t. We just need to TRUST HIM!

Sometimes trusting the Lord Jesus Christ is hard. We look at those around us and think they have it made. But we have to remember: another person’s “success” has absolutely nothing to do with YOU! You are your own unique/distinct individual in the name of the Lord! And if anything, another person’s “success” should give you HOPE! Cause think about it: if it could happen for THEM, it could someday happen for YOU, am I right? 😉

You might think or feel that the Lord Jesus Christ doesn’t care about you sometimes (especially when it seems the Lord Jesus is already “too seemingly” busy providing for/blessing EVERYONE ELSE and not YOU!) But let me tell you something: He cares about you more than anything in the world! And he wants to have a true/deep spiritual relationship with you! But he can’t do that if you won’t let Him!

Ever had one of those days where you felt like the Lord Jesus Christ had forgotten about you, down here on this Earth? I’ve had one of those days most recently (in all honesty). And this is the first song that came on the car radio (and I got my answer); when I very first heard the introduction to the song, I knew I had heard the song once before at work when I was feeling “sad”, so I turned it up so I could hear it a bit better and here’s the answer I got from the Lord and trust me, I was in sentimental tears in SECONDS! lol 😉

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=maAyfcO-X3k

Please note, however: while you may get the “impression” that the Lord above approves of all “pre-recorded music” and finds it “pleasing to His site”, let me assure of you of ONE thing: in all honestly, the good Lord’s not really much of a fan of “pre-recorded music” in and of itself! Why? Because to HIM, it’s fake, it’s too commercialized, it’s generic, and it’s not straight from the soul. Secondly, oftentimes, it doesn’t praise HIM, the Lord of all creation, the Lord who gave each and every single one of us LIFE! However, he can USE that same “pre-recorded music” from time to time to REACH PEOPLE with HIS holy, divine messages, as was the case with ME several times!

The Lord above (like it or not) knows us inside and out. He created each and every single one of us in our mother’s wombs. He likely knows our every single DNA cell BY NAME! (For if he knows every cosmic STAR by name, doesn’t it also stand to reason that He likely knows every single individual CELL by name, too?) And he also knows our personalities and our habits. He knows us human creatures can be quite stubborn at times!

He knows we want what we want when we want it (it’s human nature). Just like he knows that we human creatures sometimes “stubbornly” insist on listening to the car radio while driving to work (ahem….guilty, here) and when his “messages” don’t get through by OTHER means, (a Christian documentary, bible passages, messages said through a friend, a dream, etc.), he sometimes USES our own “devices” in order TO reach us with HIS holy, divine messages!

So essentially, it’s not the pre-recorded music he approves of in and of itself but the MESSAGES behind some of the music lyrics that he approves of and can use to communicate to people. He’s quite honestly used music to communicate his holy, divine messages to me more than once. Now, I know some stubborn soul(s) out there is/are going to see this post and say to his/herself: “hey, I heard a song about such and such sin today, that MUST mean the Lord approves of this!”

But the reality is, WHEN a certain song comes on the radio (and the Lord’s trying to communicate a holy, divine message to you), you will simply KNOW it, there will simply be NO DOUBT in your mind! And the message of the song will most definitely line up with the bible and ALL scripture! The song that the Lord used to communicate with me that day is scriptural……Hebrews 13:15 “ Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee is what came to my mind immediately afterwards.

And take THIS SONG, for instance. “Silent Running” by Mike & the Mechanics. Even as a small child back in 1987-1988, I KNEW there was something *quite unique* about this song, though I couldn’t quite figure out at the time what it was. It was only most recently that I FINALLY figured out what the *significance* about this song IS/WAS! For more info., please read the following post that breaks apart the lyrics of this song and talks about the BIBLICAL SIGNIFICANCE of them!

https://yeshua777.wordpress.com/2014/05/01/song-from-the-80s-hints-at-future-wwiii/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Note to Christian Women: Don’t Rush Love, Part One

[Note: the following can ALSO apply to single Christian men as well, who are dating all the “wrong types” of women in their quest to “find THE one”. And if that’s you [single Christian male reading this], read on, and just switch the viewpoint as if I’m writing to single, Christian males dating all the wrong types of women, thus far. Thanks and I hope this helps!]

Today’s society places such great importance on love and relationships. So much in fact, that countless numbers of magazine and internet articles are inundated with “relationship advice” and the like. And as a woman is walking around in public (be at the grocery store, Walmart, the mall, the movie theater), more oftentimes than not, she will see COUNTLESS numbers of “happy little couples” walking around and probably wish so desperately that she were part of one herself. And then, if she’s Christian or church-going, she will oftentimes hear sermon after sermon on marriage and family, over and over again, which no doubt sends her the false message that says: “hey, God only values you if you are dating someone, engaged or married”, which can thus, likely make her feel SO ALONE in this world!

But one thing we know from the bible (specifically, near the very beginning of Genesis) is that God values relationships (specifically, those that lead to marriage). And many a single Christian woman will ask herself the fateful question: “if God cared SO MUCH about making sure that Adam wasn’t alone, then why does he seem to care so very little about MY being alone?” and it’s a question that resonates VERY, VERY deeply into the human woman’s soul. When, as a woman, one sees countless numbers of happy little couples walking around, it is easy for a woman to feel jealous or to feel as though something must be wrong with her if so and so is in a relationship but yet, she herself is not.

When that occurs, some women get tired and fed up of waiting, thinking something along the lines of “well, God is sure taking his sweet-heck of a time finding a suitable man/spouse for me, so I think I’m just gonna speed up the process a little bit”. So then what happens, as a result? Answer: They end up dating and/or marrying the wrong guy. They end up dating or settling for Mr. He’s-Not-A-True-Christian-But-I-Love-Him-Anyways, Mr. Maybe, Mr. Right Now, or Mr. Maybe-He-Loves-Me-But-I-Don’t-Know-For-Sure-And-Love-Him-Too-Much-To-Leave. And the results are DISASTROUS!

These women later usually end up being CHEATED ON by these wrong-for-them type boyfriends or husbands or vice versa. Bottom line is, SHE is not fulfilled due to the guy’s LACK of faith/no faith while HE is not fulfilled DUE to her faith. It’s a no-win situation, folks!

They then later end up breaking up or getting divorced and any children that are a product of such “un-evenly yoked” unions tend to suffer from LIFELONG SCARS brought on by the breakup/divorce (one of those lifelong scars may be that they don’t know what real love is or how to have or seek out a good/healthy relationship/marriage someday and will have a statistically higher chance of getting divorced (or having unfulfilling relationships) themselves someday and the pattern repeats itself, over and over again usually, which is tragic).

So what’s an illustrated example of when a woman goes for the wrong type of guy? Well, lets say a woman likes this guy that isn’t a Christian (and he can be atheist, Muslim, Hindu, Mormon, Pagan, Catholic, etc.) And this guy gots alot of good qualities, but he’s not Christian. So the woman thinks to herself: “well, I know he’s not Christian but he gots all these other good qualities….so perhaps it doesn’t matter that much that he’s not Christian…..perhaps I could later get him to convert to Christianity AFTER we get married……I mean….as long as he’s ok with MY being Christian, it will all turn out okay, right?” And usually what happens with that situation is that the guy NEVER CHANGES/NEVER CONVERTS and both the woman AND the guy in question are HIGHLY unfulfilled and bitterness/resentment/divorcement ensue!

OR….in OTHER cases……if the woman decides NOT to date anymore non-Christian guys in her life, the “guy” they’re interested in might even go so far as to try to make her feel BAD or like a “hateful, religious bigot” for refusing to date him since he’s not Christian/not interested in becoming Christian. So then what usually happens? The guy will oftentimes “pretend” like he’s Christian, just to get in a woman’s pants/etc……

OR…..the woman’ll maybe cave and decide she’d rather have more of HIM and less of Jesus in her life. And that’s tragic. Because when we put the “opinion” of others BEFORE the almighty opinion of God, we’ve done ourselves (and the Lord) a SERIOUS disservice! It’s like saying to the Lord, “I’m sorry, Lord….but your opinion on what constitutes a GOOD MAN and a GOOD RELATIONSHIP’s not important enough to me. MY opinion is FAR more superior than YOURS Lord, so just DEAL WITH IT!” 

Another thing a single Christian woman might experience is when a non-Christian or wayward Christian woman seems to have more luck in love and relationships than SHE herself does. So then she will likely start to doubt and question God as in, “Hey there! Wait a minute, I’m a Christian, she’s not…..or a wayward one at best, so why does SHE have a boyfriend and/or husband, and I don’t?” It might seem to her that God is somehow favoring the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman and NOT her (the Christian woman) since God had somehow allowed the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman to have a boyfriend/husband before her. But ya know what, ladies? The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. And you don’t know what goes on inside that relationship or that marriage.

Maybe her boyfriend/husband doesn’t pay any attention to her and is a real jerk to her (behind closed doors). Maybe he never gets anything for her on her birthday, wedding anniversary, etc. or takes her for granted. Or maybe it was one of those “starter marriages” without deep, specific meaning. OR……if her husband DOES treat her really, really good, maybe that is the Lord’s way of trying to secretly draw HER (the “said” non-Christian woman/wayward Christian woman) TO him (the great Lord above) and THAT could never be a bad thing, right? 😉

And besides, if it could happen for the non-Christian woman, then it could MOST CERTAINLY happen for the Christian woman someday, right? 🙂 Sometimes it just takes the Lord awhile to create the most perfect combination in a man.

But for the Christian woman, it’s much better if she waits for the RIGHT MAN (as in, BIBLICAL CHRISTIAN MAN) then wasting all her time dating all the “wrong guys”. That’s not to say that she can’t learn from relationships with non-Christian men and even love and value the man VERY highly but IF the single Christian woman wants to align herself with the TRUE 100% will of God, then the guy she dates MUST be a biblical-based Christian. No exceptions.

And, hey, LOOK….I know and realize that that’s a VERY hard thing for women these days to do, especially since biblically-based Christian men these days are SO few and far between. And then there’s the popular phenomena with “Christian dating sites”. A Christian lady might think it’s the way to go. But ladies, be careful. There’s many male “creepers” out there who are just looking for some “good Christian virgins to be with”, etc. That’s why you ladies out there should be EVER so careful about whom you trust and correspond with online.

In fact, many more “creepers” themselves are starting to go to Christian dating sites to pick their “victims”. Don’t be ONE of them, ladies! Be smart. Never meet one of a guy off a Christian dating site alone. NEVER give out your address or phone number right away. Pray to Jesus about Jesus’s will. And if this guy doesn’t align with Jesus’s will for your life, you better step up and pay attention, ladies!  

That being said, what sorts of traits should a single Christian woman look for in a man? Lets example some biblical principles……

1. Is the guy a Christian? And by Christian, I DON’T mean Catholic, Mormon, Jehovah’s Witness, etc.! I mean, is he a TRUE biblical Christian (Jewish roots Christian is EVEN BETTER)?

2. If he’s a Christian, how is his relationship with the Lord? Does he read the bible and pray often? Does he have a conversion story? Is he thankful for all that the Lord has given him?

3. How does he treat YOU and make YOU feel? Is he patient, considerable, respectful of your time? Does he call or text you when he’s going to be late meeting you? Does he comfort you when you’re sad? Is he happy for you when you are successful? Does he encourage you when you need encouragement or reassurance?

4. Do his values align with YOUR values? For example, if you want kids someday, does he want kids as well? And if you don’t want kids someday, does he also not want kids someday? Or if he does want kids, is he willing to forgo having them to make you happy?

5. Is he willing to save sex until marriage? This one is important. If he is, hold onto that man for dear life and don’t let go, women! 😉

6. Is he willing to do bible study with you each week and/or go to couples counseling with you if your relationship or marriage hits a rough patch?

7. Is he willing to COMMUNICATE and COMPROMISE with you, in order to make your relationship work? This one’s also important. For if a man isn’t willing to communicate or compromise with you early on in the relationship, what good would that guy be in a marriage?

On the other hand……..here are some red flags that a single Christian woman should NOT tolerate in a spouse/dating partner……..

1. He is verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or physically abusive…….

2. He constantly blames YOU for all the problems in the relationship and WILL NOT take the blame for what HE does wrong……..

3. He is hypercritical or super-super religious as in, he constantly criticizes your cooking/etc. or demands you have long hair and wear long skirts all the time…….

4. He lies to you or cheats on you……

5. He pays child support on other children and doesn’t tell you………

6. He is a mama’s boy and expects you to do EVERYTHING for him and does practically NOTHING for you in return……

7. He never takes you out on dates, never tells you he loves you, never does things to show he cares……

8. He doesn’t take the Lord OR you seriously and promises to change bad habits but then never does……….

9. He laughs at your emotional pain on certain things and claims you are being “too sensitive”…..

10. He/she tells you how “hot” other women are…..

11. He blows you off, doesn’t call or text back when he says he will and makes you feel really, really bad about yourself…….

12. He BELITTLES your “Christian religion” (this is HUGE, LADIES! Probably one of THE biggest red flags out there!)

13. He “borrows money” from you all the time and never pays you back or expects YOU to pay for things all the time! 

14. He has an alcohol or drug problem

15). Etc. Etc. 

Sometimes, for all the singles out there, it’s VERY, VERY easy to grow disillusioned and want to date the next person that comes along that we “think” we feel a total emotional/physical attraction type connection with. But we all MUST remember: Jesus Christ knows best. It might “seem” at times that he’s forgotten about all the single Christians down here on this Earth but trust me, he has NOT forgotten about all the single people out there! 

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” – [Matthew 6:33] andBehold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?” – [Matthew 6:26] 

For example, if we had to be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, we all have an extensive list of what we’d ideally want in the perfect mate, right? Like, some of us might want an extremely “nerdy” Christian, while others of us might desire a more social, outspoken Christian. Basically, we all got our different types that we like.

And hey, if we were to all be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, how many times have us single souls (both males and females out there) prayed to the Lord something along the following: “Lord, if you could send a mate into my life that’s _______, Christian, _____ and _______[personality-wise], is into _______ and ________ [hobbies], is ______ feet tall, has ________ colored eyes and _____ hair and speaks with a _____ accent, I’d really, really appreciate it”???? haha 😉 Well, lets face it, that’s quite a tall order that the Lord must then fill. And it could take awhile before he finds JUST the right combination in a person and gets that person to be at the right place at the right time, etc.

So single Christians out there, ya’ll got TWO choices: to wait on the good Lord above to send the RIGHT person into your lives (no matter how long it takes) and be TRULY blessed in life and in love when it DOES happen for ya OR not wait on the Lord, find a “mate” prematurely and then get your heart broken immediately afterwards because you tried to go on your OWN timing instead of the Lord’s timing. The choice is up to you, singles! But don’t say I didn’t warn you! 😉