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IMPORTANT: What Jesus WANTS For *Godly Relationships!*

For those who don’t yet know my testimony or my story, I’ll give a brief overview here:

I had met Jesus personally during a couple of near-death experiences (one at around 23 months of age and another at just 14 years old). And at age 19, I knew who Jesus was. I had a huge children’s illustrated bible at my disposal (shortly after near-death experience #1), as well as the “official” KJV version I took from a ski resort condo when I was 15.

But at age 19-20, I still had NO IDEA what a “Christian” even WAS, the full extent to WHAT Jesus had done for mankind on the cross, or about any of the “meanings” of the words (“grace”, “born again”, “salvation”, etc.) of what I was reading in the “official” version of the KJV bible I was reading. I was really struggling to understand what it all meant. Well, one day in the mail, I got a invitation to a play (put on by a church) called: “Heaven’s Gate and Hell’s Flames”.

At first, I didn’t want to go. I thought I’d feel like the odd one out compared to all the people who’d been going to church their whole lives! However, after some grappling with the Lord over it, (i.e. remember when Moses got nervous about being the spokesman of Israel?) I decided to bite the bullet and take a chance and go, anyways! Well, I’m glad I did! First of all, I guy I had gone to High-School with had played the part of one of the angels! So hey, atleast I knew SOMEONE there, right?

And after the play, they handed out some FREE literature (Specifically, a small, brand-new pocket-sized “God’s Word: New Testament & Psalms). They told me to read it, look over it and then call them if I had any questions about what I was reading. They also assigned to me something called a “prayer accountability partner”, even though I didn’t really know what that meant at the time. And even though I was grateful for the FREE play and FREE literature, I was still somewhat hesitant about “attending church”. I just felt OVERWHELMED!

So I didn’t end up becoming a member of that church. Instead, I thanked them for the free bible and begun to read that God’s Word translation from cover to cover at home, in my own free time. But what really got me were the very first introductory pages! They just explained things to me SO WELL! Plus they even put the most important things IN BOLD! I knew that Jesus had some wonderful things in store for me by having them give me that easy-to-understand version of the New Testament! It’s just exactly what I needed at that time!

And as I begin to read and pour over the pages, I FINALLY began to understand what all those “words” meant (i.e. “grace”, “born again”, “salvation”), about what Jesus did, about how we’re all sinners and about how ONLY Jesus can save us from our sins! And so once I felt I had a firm grasp and understanding on THAT God’s Word translation, I quickly decided I was then gonna read the “official” King James Version, cover to cover, no matter how long it took!

(Please keep in mind that I had NO job at this point, had broken up with my S.O. AND had gotten kicked out of college! I was living off of savings/credit cards at that point. So for 8 months straight, that’s how Jesus orchestrated that time in my life so that it was just me and Him at that time! And what a wonderful BLESSING that turned out to be! Jesus was giving me a break from EVERYTHING and EVERYONE so that I could PEACEFULLY learn more about HIM and HIS GOSPEL!)

I understood most of everything I had read and was “amazed” at all the “love stories” (Boaz and Ruth, Jacob and Rachel, Isaac and Rebekah) that I had read! And I was young and filled with promise! I thought: “Hey, if it could happen to these folks in the bible, it can happen to ME, too!” I had this idea or picture in my mind that I’d meet my spouse by the age of 25, have kids by 30, and have a house by 35! In fact, don’t we ALL have pre-conceived notions in our mind like that?

So even though I had the KNOWLEDGE of Jesus and his gospel by age 21, I didn’t quite yet have the FAITH in Jesus that’s required! And so, for many years afterwards, that LACK OF FAITH in Jesus (concerning my love-life and considering other areas of my life) did me some SERIOUS HARM!

In fact, I was “mad at Jesus” for not bringing me a spouse for such a long, long time! I’m ashamed to even type this across the page but my “thoughts” for a LONG time concerning my love-life were the following: Jesus, you bring EVERYONE ELSE a spouse but not ME! Why? What’s wrong with ME? What are you punishing ME for? What wrong have “I” done against thee? Why am “I” not so-called deserving of a spouse but yet, other people seemingly ARE? Those people don’t even worship you AT ALL and they got a spouse before me! Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Tell me WHY!!!!???” 

I ended up not only being angry and bitter for MANY YEARS towards a few people that had majorly hurt me in my life but I also later ended up in FOUR consecutive abusive relationships! (Note: I had gotten so tired of “waiting on God” at that particular point in my life that I decided to “take matters into my own hands”).

Though none of them were physically abusive (I atleast got lucky in THAT regard), they were all emotionally, psychologically, mentally and SPIRITUALLY ABUSIVE! They CUT AWAY at my self-esteem, made me doubt myself, somewhat made me doubt God/Jesus, tampered with my faith, got me feeling VERY hopeless and depressed and ALMOST completely RUINED ME as a Christian! 

I had SO MUCH HATE in my heart towards the individuals who hurt me. “How could they?” I thought: “Jesus, how could you ALLOW that to happen to me at the hands of these people? Don’t you care about me AT ALL, Jesus? I was in this bitter, bitter place of anger, hurt, resentment, restlessness and mental/emotional ANGUISH! I was TORMENTED by the angered hatred I felt for those those individuals!

Odd thing is, I didn’t even really WANT to hate those individuals but my PRIDE got in the way of that! Even when Jesus gently said to me in my spirit: Told ya so! You should’ve listened to me and done things MY way, instead of your OWN way”, I was STILL stubborn about it. “But you don’t understand, Lord! You don’t understand what it’s like to be ME!” And the Lord seemed to say to me in my spirit, in response: “I CREATED you! I know you better than you even know YOURSELF!” 

It wasn’t really until I was about 30 years old or so that Jesus began to “soften” my heart towards the individuals who had hurt me and I began to see how my hate and resentment was EATING AWAY AT ME ON THE INSIDE! The Holy Spirit even revealed to me that my “hate” was eating away at MY SOUL! Wow! What a powerful, convicting description!

Eventually, I surrendered all that hurt, anger, fear, resentment to Jesus. I prayed: “Jesus, I don’t WANT to hate or resent anymore, it’s already taken SO MUCH from me! I WANT to be able to FORGIVE, so please HELP ME to FORGIVE and MOVE ON, as I know I can’t do it alone……only WITH your divine help, Lord!

And ya know what? Jesus IS faithful and true! He DID help me to forgive them. He pointed out SEVERAL things to me. First of all, he informed me that the people who hurt me were themselves hurting on the inside. Secondly, they didn’t even fully consciously realize how much they had hurt me. Thirdly, Jesus wanted me to know that it wasn’t my fault and that their OWN healing would ALSO someday come about BY my forgiving them! Wow! Such powerful words of wisdom!

And AS I forgave them [Jesus had me starting out by writing “forgiveness letters” to each person who had hurt me – though I had never hand-delivered the letters to them personally], I felt SO MUCH BAGGAGE lift OFF of me and my SPIRIT! I felt FREE for the first time in a VERY long time! My SOUL felt FREE! I felt PEACE! I felt LOVE! I felt JOY! I felt CONTENTMENT!

I no longer had “heart palpitations” or “anxiety attacks!” It was like a HUGE ANCHOR had been LIFTED off of me! I no longer felt “weighed down” by anger and hate! In fact, I was the happiest I had ever been! In fact, people started to notice. The relationships with the people who had hurt me began to DRASTICALLY improve! It was nothing short of a MIRACLE! (This was when I was around age 34 or so, I believe?)

However, even at 34, there was still alot of “spiritual work” to be done! Because at THAT point in my life, I STILL had no idea about the TRUTH about church history, the Judeo roots of Christianity, etc. I would learn all of that later (like, age 36 or so). It’s funny how the Lord reveals things to me in “stages”. Sometimes, I wish he’d reveal things to me all at once, but that’s a different post for a different day! 😉 Jesus has also (in the last several months) helped me to soften my heart towards HIMSELF, concerning certain things in my life! 

Okay, now fast forward to today. Even though I’ve been a Christian for about 20 years now, I’ve only most recently learned what Jesus expects for a GODLY RELATIONSHIP (be it a relationship, a friendship, a marriage, etc.) And what I learned in the series just BLEW ME AWAY! Wow! How had I not ever seen this before? And then I got to thinking. How many OTHERS out there have not seen this before? Probably SEVERAL

I’ve most recently viewed an 8-part series and a powerful one-hour+ sermon on the matter. And ALL of them were eye-opening! And ALL of them ask the same questions: “Am I seeking a spouse with the RIGHT spiritual mind, heart and attitude before God? If not, why? If so, is it GOD’S time for me to have a spouse yet? If not, am I willing to wait on God instead of giving in to my own selfish desires? And if already married, am I bringing Christ INTO the marriage?” 

I will embed all the videos down below. [NOTE: PLEASE GET OUT A PEN AND PAPER AND TAKE LOTS OF NOTES!!!!!] I pray and hope that these will help you and enlighten you as much as they helped and enlightened ME! 😉 The first video is entitled “5 Keys To Identifying Your SoulMate” by Toure Roberts in L.A. and the next SEVERAL videos are the 8-PART series by Michael Todd from Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma!

Jesus or “Breadcrumbs?”

I’ve most recently read a most PROFOUND book on “idols”. In the book, it talks about how idols are NOT JUST “statues” and “figurines”…..they can be SO MUCH MORE! 

Think back to the time of the Old Testament when there were a set of twins by the names of Jacob & Esau. Esau was the oldest of the two and back in those days (ancient, biblical times), the oldest son got most (if not all) of the father’s property when the father died, ALONG with what’s known as *the patriarchal blessing*.

It was custom back in those days that when a father died, the oldest son would “inherit” the most (if not all). This was known as his “birthright”. But RIGHT BEFORE the father died, it was custom for the father to BESTOW (that means, to give) his “personal blessing” upon the oldest son. While any consequent younger son could ALSO get some sort of “blessing”, it was always typically MUCH LESSER in degree, in comparison with what type of “patriarchal blessing” the OLDEST son would get. 

Esau was a hunter of the fields, while Jacob was more of a “homely” sheep-herder that preferred to stay at home in the camp. One day, while Esau was out hunting, Jacob cooked up some soup. And when Esau came home from his daily hunt, the SMELL of that soup must’ve been (in Esau’s nostrils, atleast) “heavenly”. He asked Jacob for some of that soup. But Jacob was clever. He said if Esau SOLD HIM HIS BIRTHRIGHT, he, Jacob, would then give him some of the soup.

Esau obliged (in other words, Esau agreed to it). And later on in the biblical narrative, we see how that plays out and how Esau is ALSO “tricked” out of his patriarchal blessing as well (or could it have been God’s wrath upon Esau for being so “careless” over his “birthright”, to begin with?) 

But the point I’m trying to make is THIS: WHEN Esau SOLD HIS BIRTHRIGHT for a “measly bowl of soup”, he, in effect, was likened unto one who SOLD HIS SOUL for a “measly portion”. That’s all idols are, really. A “measly portion”. Breadcrumbs! They SEEM enticing and thrilling at first glance. But on the inside, they are hallow shells; SPIRITUALLY EMPTY.

And the more of these “empty idols” we have, the more we “need” in order to try to sustain ourselves. We’re like birds, chasing after, picking up and eating one “breadcrumb idol” after another. They can’t talk, move, see or hear. So what ABOUT them seems SO appealing to us? The following book attempts to answer those questions for us IN DETAIL:

NO OTHER GODS BOOK

Therefore, what was Esau’s “idol” in that case? It was FOOD!

“And Esau said, Behold, I am at the point to die: and what profit shall this birthright do to me?Genesis 25:32

Genesis 25:33 goes on to say that Jacob demanded that Esau SELL his “birthright” to him. SELL IT. Think about what that MEANS, folks! And the end of the passage says that Esau DID sell it. 

“And Jacob said, Swear to me this day; and he sware unto him: and he sold his birthright unto Jacob” – Genesis 25:33

I guess it’s really no wonder then when we read in Romans 9:13 in the NEW TESTAMENT: “As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated“.

Now…….if people reading the New Testament read that Romans 9:13 passage, WITHOUT ever even HAVING read the Old Testament, that can, at first glance, seem like a statement of “pure hatred”. But what that passage is REALLY saying (in context) is that Jesus loved the HEART of Jacob (which was set on “spiritual things”) but despised the HEART of Esau (who was stuck on “worldly/fleshly things” – like food).

Another good biblical dichotomy (in other words, comparison) is the difference between Ishmael & Isaac. God promised Abraham and Sarah a child in their old age. They waited some time and nothing happened. So they got a little “antsy” (or atleast Sarah did, anyways). Sarah decided she didn’t want to wait anymore and told Abraham to marry her slave girl, Hagar, so that Sarah might have a child THROUGH her. Abraham obeyed. Hagar had a child and his name was *Ishmael*. 

However, when Ishmael was in his early teens, Sarah DID conceive and have a child, whose name was Isaac. The book up above I read suggested that Abraham likely thought (at first, anyways) that Ishmael was the “promised heir” [because remember how, in ancient biblical times, special blessings always went to the oldest son?] but instead, it was, according to the bible, Isaac.

However, there’s also one DISTINCTION, here. Ishmael was born from a “concubine”/”slave woman” while Isaac was born of a WIFE! That makes all the difference in the world, here and is also why God’s covenant was with ISAAC, instead of Ishmael.

Now…..are there any OTHER cases in the bible where the YOUNGEST/YOUNGER son ended up getting a BIGGER “patriarchal blessing” than the OLDEST? Yes. We find that in Genesis 48:17-20…..In THIS passage, Jacob is VERY OLD in age, with all his sons (and 2 grandsons by his son Joseph) standing around him. 

Now remember, back in those days, it was typical for the oldest son to get a MUCH BIGGER blessing than any of the younger son(s). Manasseh was Joseph’s oldest son, while Ephraim was his youngest son. Joseph wanted his father Jacob to put his patriarchal blessing on his OLDEST son, Manasseh and placed his hands accordingly. But instead, Jacob did just the OPPOSITE……….He crossed his hands and blessed the YOUNGER SON, EPHRAIM, instead. 

Manasseh’s name means “causing to forget” while Ephraim’s name means “fruitful” or “causing to be fruitful”. So perhaps that has something to do with WHY the younger son was blessed over the older one. 

I’ve written ONE previous post on the subject of idols, from a slighly different angle: https://yeshua777.wordpress.com/2011/01/05/idols-in-modern-day-society/

And ya know, it’s funny. I’ve always known and REALIZED that idols don’t necessarily have to be statues or figurines. But until I saw the FULL list of what they could be (even people and “relationships”), I was never really able to put it into full scope. Therefore, that book was an EYE-OPENING book for me and I’d HIGHLY recommend it. It also comes with a BIBLE STUDY GUIDE as well. 

But in closing, I’d just like to ask: What type of idols do you have in your life? Are/were you even aware that you had them? And do you realize that idols are like “breadcrumbs”….promising spiritual nourishment but NEVER fulfilling it? And are you willing to learn to relinquish “breadcrumb idols” for the sake of a closer and COMPLETE spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ?

If you answered yes to the last question, I’d HIGHLY recommend the “No Other Gods” paperback book (easier for highlighting important passages), along with the “No Other God Bible Study Guide”. And remember: strive for Jesus, NOT “BREADCRUMBS”.

NO OTHER GODS BIBLE STUDY

 

Note to Christian Women: Don’t Rush Love, Part One

[Note: the following can ALSO apply to single Christian men as well, who are dating all the “wrong types” of women in their quest to “find THE one”. And if that’s you [single Christian male reading this], read on, and just switch the viewpoint as if I’m writing to single, Christian males dating all the wrong types of women, thus far. Thanks and I hope this helps!]

Today’s society places such great importance on love and relationships. So much in fact, that countless numbers of magazine and internet articles are inundated with “relationship advice” and the like. And as a woman is walking around in public (be at the grocery store, Walmart, the mall, the movie theater), more oftentimes than not, she will see COUNTLESS numbers of “happy little couples” walking around and probably wish so desperately that she were part of one herself. And then, if she’s Christian or church-going, she will oftentimes hear sermon after sermon on marriage and family, over and over again, which no doubt sends her the false message that says: “hey, God only values you if you are dating someone, engaged or married”, which can thus, likely make her feel SO ALONE in this world!

But one thing we know from the bible (specifically, near the very beginning of Genesis) is that God values relationships (specifically, those that lead to marriage). And many a single Christian woman will ask herself the fateful question: “if God cared SO MUCH about making sure that Adam wasn’t alone, then why does he seem to care so very little about MY being alone?” and it’s a question that resonates VERY, VERY deeply into the human woman’s soul. When, as a woman, one sees countless numbers of happy little couples walking around, it is easy for a woman to feel jealous or to feel as though something must be wrong with her if so and so is in a relationship but yet, she herself is not.

When that occurs, some women get tired and fed up of waiting, thinking something along the lines of “well, God is sure taking his sweet-heck of a time finding a suitable man/spouse for me, so I think I’m just gonna speed up the process a little bit”. So then what happens, as a result? Answer: They end up dating and/or marrying the wrong guy. They end up dating or settling for Mr. He’s-Not-A-True-Christian-But-I-Love-Him-Anyways, Mr. Maybe, Mr. Right Now, or Mr. Maybe-He-Loves-Me-But-I-Don’t-Know-For-Sure-And-Love-Him-Too-Much-To-Leave. And the results are DISASTROUS!

These women later usually end up being CHEATED ON by these wrong-for-them type boyfriends or husbands or vice versa. Bottom line is, SHE is not fulfilled due to the guy’s LACK of faith/no faith while HE is not fulfilled DUE to her faith. It’s a no-win situation, folks!

They then later end up breaking up or getting divorced and any children that are a product of such “un-evenly yoked” unions tend to suffer from LIFELONG SCARS brought on by the breakup/divorce (one of those lifelong scars may be that they don’t know what real love is or how to have or seek out a good/healthy relationship/marriage someday and will have a statistically higher chance of getting divorced (or having unfulfilling relationships) themselves someday and the pattern repeats itself, over and over again usually, which is tragic).

So what’s an illustrated example of when a woman goes for the wrong type of guy? Well, lets say a woman likes this guy that isn’t a Christian (and he can be atheist, Muslim, Hindu, Mormon, Pagan, Catholic, etc.) And this guy gots alot of good qualities, but he’s not Christian. So the woman thinks to herself: “well, I know he’s not Christian but he gots all these other good qualities….so perhaps it doesn’t matter that much that he’s not Christian…..perhaps I could later get him to convert to Christianity AFTER we get married……I mean….as long as he’s ok with MY being Christian, it will all turn out okay, right?” And usually what happens with that situation is that the guy NEVER CHANGES/NEVER CONVERTS and both the woman AND the guy in question are HIGHLY unfulfilled and bitterness/resentment/divorcement ensue!

OR….in OTHER cases……if the woman decides NOT to date anymore non-Christian guys in her life, the “guy” they’re interested in might even go so far as to try to make her feel BAD or like a “hateful, religious bigot” for refusing to date him since he’s not Christian/not interested in becoming Christian. So then what usually happens? The guy will oftentimes “pretend” like he’s Christian, just to get in a woman’s pants/etc……

OR…..the woman’ll maybe cave and decide she’d rather have more of HIM and less of Jesus in her life. And that’s tragic. Because when we put the “opinion” of others BEFORE the almighty opinion of God, we’ve done ourselves (and the Lord) a SERIOUS disservice! It’s like saying to the Lord, “I’m sorry, Lord….but your opinion on what constitutes a GOOD MAN and a GOOD RELATIONSHIP’s not important enough to me. MY opinion is FAR more superior than YOURS Lord, so just DEAL WITH IT!” 

Another thing a single Christian woman might experience is when a non-Christian or wayward Christian woman seems to have more luck in love and relationships than SHE herself does. So then she will likely start to doubt and question God as in, “Hey there! Wait a minute, I’m a Christian, she’s not…..or a wayward one at best, so why does SHE have a boyfriend and/or husband, and I don’t?” It might seem to her that God is somehow favoring the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman and NOT her (the Christian woman) since God had somehow allowed the non-Christian/wayward Christian woman to have a boyfriend/husband before her. But ya know what, ladies? The grass is NOT always greener on the other side. And you don’t know what goes on inside that relationship or that marriage.

Maybe her boyfriend/husband doesn’t pay any attention to her and is a real jerk to her (behind closed doors). Maybe he never gets anything for her on her birthday, wedding anniversary, etc. or takes her for granted. Or maybe it was one of those “starter marriages” without deep, specific meaning. OR……if her husband DOES treat her really, really good, maybe that is the Lord’s way of trying to secretly draw HER (the “said” non-Christian woman/wayward Christian woman) TO him (the great Lord above) and THAT could never be a bad thing, right? 😉

And besides, if it could happen for the non-Christian woman, then it could MOST CERTAINLY happen for the Christian woman someday, right? 🙂 Sometimes it just takes the Lord awhile to create the most perfect combination in a man.

But for the Christian woman, it’s much better if she waits for the RIGHT MAN (as in, BIBLICAL CHRISTIAN MAN) then wasting all her time dating all the “wrong guys”. That’s not to say that she can’t learn from relationships with non-Christian men and even love and value the man VERY highly but IF the single Christian woman wants to align herself with the TRUE 100% will of God, then the guy she dates MUST be a biblical-based Christian. No exceptions.

And, hey, LOOK….I know and realize that that’s a VERY hard thing for women these days to do, especially since biblically-based Christian men these days are SO few and far between. And then there’s the popular phenomena with “Christian dating sites”. A Christian lady might think it’s the way to go. But ladies, be careful. There’s many male “creepers” out there who are just looking for some “good Christian virgins to be with”, etc. That’s why you ladies out there should be EVER so careful about whom you trust and correspond with online.

In fact, many more “creepers” themselves are starting to go to Christian dating sites to pick their “victims”. Don’t be ONE of them, ladies! Be smart. Never meet one of a guy off a Christian dating site alone. NEVER give out your address or phone number right away. Pray to Jesus about Jesus’s will. And if this guy doesn’t align with Jesus’s will for your life, you better step up and pay attention, ladies!  

That being said, what sorts of traits should a single Christian woman look for in a man? Lets example some biblical principles……

1. Is the guy a Christian? And by Christian, I DON’T mean Catholic, Mormon, Jehovah’s Witness, etc.! I mean, is he a TRUE biblical Christian (Jewish roots Christian is EVEN BETTER)?

2. If he’s a Christian, how is his relationship with the Lord? Does he read the bible and pray often? Does he have a conversion story? Is he thankful for all that the Lord has given him?

3. How does he treat YOU and make YOU feel? Is he patient, considerable, respectful of your time? Does he call or text you when he’s going to be late meeting you? Does he comfort you when you’re sad? Is he happy for you when you are successful? Does he encourage you when you need encouragement or reassurance?

4. Do his values align with YOUR values? For example, if you want kids someday, does he want kids as well? And if you don’t want kids someday, does he also not want kids someday? Or if he does want kids, is he willing to forgo having them to make you happy?

5. Is he willing to save sex until marriage? This one is important. If he is, hold onto that man for dear life and don’t let go, women! 😉

6. Is he willing to do bible study with you each week and/or go to couples counseling with you if your relationship or marriage hits a rough patch?

7. Is he willing to COMMUNICATE and COMPROMISE with you, in order to make your relationship work? This one’s also important. For if a man isn’t willing to communicate or compromise with you early on in the relationship, what good would that guy be in a marriage?

On the other hand……..here are some red flags that a single Christian woman should NOT tolerate in a spouse/dating partner……..

1. He is verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually or physically abusive…….

2. He constantly blames YOU for all the problems in the relationship and WILL NOT take the blame for what HE does wrong……..

3. He is hypercritical or super-super religious as in, he constantly criticizes your cooking/etc. or demands you have long hair and wear long skirts all the time…….

4. He lies to you or cheats on you……

5. He pays child support on other children and doesn’t tell you………

6. He is a mama’s boy and expects you to do EVERYTHING for him and does practically NOTHING for you in return……

7. He never takes you out on dates, never tells you he loves you, never does things to show he cares……

8. He doesn’t take the Lord OR you seriously and promises to change bad habits but then never does……….

9. He laughs at your emotional pain on certain things and claims you are being “too sensitive”…..

10. He/she tells you how “hot” other women are…..

11. He blows you off, doesn’t call or text back when he says he will and makes you feel really, really bad about yourself…….

12. He BELITTLES your “Christian religion” (this is HUGE, LADIES! Probably one of THE biggest red flags out there!)

13. He “borrows money” from you all the time and never pays you back or expects YOU to pay for things all the time! 

14. He has an alcohol or drug problem

15). Etc. Etc. 

Sometimes, for all the singles out there, it’s VERY, VERY easy to grow disillusioned and want to date the next person that comes along that we “think” we feel a total emotional/physical attraction type connection with. But we all MUST remember: Jesus Christ knows best. It might “seem” at times that he’s forgotten about all the single Christians down here on this Earth but trust me, he has NOT forgotten about all the single people out there! 

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” – [Matthew 6:33] andBehold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?” – [Matthew 6:26] 

For example, if we had to be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, we all have an extensive list of what we’d ideally want in the perfect mate, right? Like, some of us might want an extremely “nerdy” Christian, while others of us might desire a more social, outspoken Christian. Basically, we all got our different types that we like.

And hey, if we were to all be COMPLETELY honest with ourselves, how many times have us single souls (both males and females out there) prayed to the Lord something along the following: “Lord, if you could send a mate into my life that’s _______, Christian, _____ and _______[personality-wise], is into _______ and ________ [hobbies], is ______ feet tall, has ________ colored eyes and _____ hair and speaks with a _____ accent, I’d really, really appreciate it”???? haha 😉 Well, lets face it, that’s quite a tall order that the Lord must then fill. And it could take awhile before he finds JUST the right combination in a person and gets that person to be at the right place at the right time, etc.

So single Christians out there, ya’ll got TWO choices: to wait on the good Lord above to send the RIGHT person into your lives (no matter how long it takes) and be TRULY blessed in life and in love when it DOES happen for ya OR not wait on the Lord, find a “mate” prematurely and then get your heart broken immediately afterwards because you tried to go on your OWN timing instead of the Lord’s timing. The choice is up to you, singles! But don’t say I didn’t warn you! 😉